We are Christopher, Samantha, and Julia! On July 1, an expectant mom and dad in Arizona chose us to raise their daughter and make her part of our family. Expectant mom is due September 13 but has high blood pressure, so it looks like we will be traveling to Arizona to meet our daughter sometime in August. Since she will likely be born prematurely, she will probably be in the NICU for a while and we will have to stay in Arizona for a few weeks until she is able to come home. We absolutely can’t wait to make this baby girl part of our family! We have suffered incredible loss in our journey to grow our family. Now our prayers are finally being answered, and God’s plan for us is taking shape.
When we first met back in college, we had an immediate connection and knew marriage was in our futures right away. We wanted to be wise as we started our relationship, so we sat down together and discussed our hopes and dreams for the future. Both of us brought up a desire to have children one day, and we both loved the idea of adopting in addition to having biological children. Our reasoning back then was simple: God saved us from a life of destruction and sin by adopting us into His family through Jesus’s death on the cross. We wanted to live that out by adopting a child born into a difficult circumstance. Adoption is the essence of the Gospel, and we wanted to live that out in our own family. In addition, we adamantly believe that life begins at conception and that adoption is a wonderfully life-affirming alternative to abortion. We want to stand for the rights of the unborn by caring for a child whose birth parents chose life (James 1:27). 8 years later our primary reason for adopting is largely the same, but it has expanded and deepened as we’ve learned and grown together.
Since we knew we wanted biological children, we decided to start there while our bodies were young and save adopting for when we were older and would be more financially stable. Proverbs 16:9 (“The mind of man plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps”) has become very real to us as God has drastically changed our story from the plan we had in mind. We have suffered 6 miscarriages including our son Wesley who was stillborn at 20 weeks. Each baby that was lost weighs heavy on our hearts. Each miscarriage was emotionally and financially draining. Driving away from the hospital after giving birth with empty arms and an empty womb was gut wrenching. Because of our strong desire to still have biological children, we pursued fertility treatments for about a year. We tried IVF once, and that was unsuccessful. The toll it took on Sam’s body was enormous. Since adoption had always been part of the plan, we decided now is the time. Even though we are not where we would like to be financially before adopting, it seems clear to us that God is leading us down this path. We are trusting Him to provide the finances as we follow His lead.
Since we have been actively pursuing adoption, we have been examining our own hearts on why we feel like adoption is the right choice for us. We confidently knew that we wanted to adopt long before our miscarriages. It has never been a plan B for us. Since, as adopted sons and daughters in God’s kingdom, we are co-heirs with Christ, we know that our adopted child will be just as much our daughter as our biological daughter Julia is. After a lot of prayer and time spent studying adoption and God’s Word, we have realized what adoption being a metaphor for the Gospel really means. Yes, there is redemption and salvation and joy; but it’s easy to focus on that and skip over the pain and the brokenness and loss that makes adoption necessary. That loss stays with an adopted child and will become our burden to bear just as Christ bore our burdens. Adopting means dying to ourselves so that a child might live. We can’t rejoice in the empty tomb without first weeping over the blood stained cross.
Living out the Gospel in our family means that we will join in the sufferings of Christ so that we can also share in the joys of Christ. True joy comes in living the life of a servant by dying to ourselves and living for God and others because this is exactly what Christ did for us. So our reason for adopting remains the same 8 years later, but we understand now what that really looks like for us. We hope and pray that our whole adoption experience is a witness of Christ to others and ultimately brings our family and future child more of Him.
Now that we are finally matched and making preparations to bring our daughter home, a weight has been lifted, but there is still so much to do. It is our goal to finish this adoption debt free. We think it’s incredibly important to start our journey as a family of 4 financially stable so that we can provide all that our children need to thrive. Our goal is to raise $3,000. Lifesong for Orphans has selected us to receive a $3,000 matching grant, so if we are able to raise $3,000, we will have $6,000 to go toward our last financial hurdle: our travel to Arizona and our attorney fees. We anticipate our travel to and from Arizona along with our extended stay there (possibly 3+weeks) will cost about $5,000, and our attorney fees will cost about $1,000. If you feel lead to support us financially, your donation will go straight toward covering these expenses, and it will be matched dollar for dollar by Lifesong for Orphans!
Thank you again for your support for our family. We hope that you can see our heart for the orphan and our love for adoption through our story. God has used all of our trials and losses to give us more of Himself and has ultimately brought us to the place where we are ready to grow our family in this way, even though it has not been easy! We know that there will be many unique obstacles that come with raising an adopted child, but we feel prepared to tackle those through God’s faithfulness and many friends and family supporting us and loving us. We are so ready to start our journey as a family of 4. To God be the glory! He has done great things!
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