Why Us? Why Now?

Dan Zehr DORR, Michigan

This September, we will celebrate 14 years of marriage and in those 14 years, we've experienced so much.  The idea of adopting a child had always been on the back burner but had never taken center stage.  Sheila has wanted to adopt a child(ren) since birth, in fact the majority of her baby dolls were "adopted."  Throughout our marriage, the talk of adoption generally led to arguments and frustration because I (Dan) did not feel the same calling from the Lord.  In March of 2016 I was offered a promotion at work which meant that we had to move again to a new town, new church, and new schools.  Soon after moving we became very good friends with another family we met at our new church.  At that time, they were in the process of adopting their first child from China.  This obviously intrigued Sheila and she became very excited about the possibility of adopting our own someday.  In March of 2018, I reluctantly agreed to go to an informational meeting at our local adoption agency that Sheila had organized.  I don't think it was 1 minute after we walked out that we were already in an argument.  I had enough.  I told Sheila that if God was calling her to adopt then He'd have to call me to it as well.  Now keep in mind, both of us had and still have a very strong faith and relationship with Jesus and fully trusted that if it was meant to be that both of us would feel the calling.  About 6 months later, Sheila began talking to me about it more and more and I reiterated that if God was calling her to this, then He'd need to call me as well, but the difference was that I was willing to commit to praying about it.  As part of my daily devotions I began praying, "Lord, if you want us to adopt, please make it abundantly clear to me like you are with Sheila."  Because our friends had adopted twice now from China, we had it in our minds that if the Lord ever pricked my heart to adopt, we would attempt to do so from China.  As I prayed, Sheila prayed very hard as well that my heart would be softened.  There were signs all over the place and about 3 months after I started praying I was at work and I saw an older gentlemen (50's) with an Asian son who had Down syndrome.  We knew that if we adopted, our child would most likely have some sort of special needs.  That was it, and I finally told the Lord, o.k. I'm in.  I went home and told Sheila and she was overjoyed.  That week we made an appointment with the same adoption agency and the funny thing is, the same case worker met us at the door and said, "It's nice to see you again.  What's changed?"  I told her that God had finally put it on my heart and that I was tired of fighting all of the reasons not to.  There was a child somewhere in some foreign country that needed a mom and dad and a forever family that would love them.  Shortly after we were soft matched with a child we found on a waiting list.  He is almost 2 and is living with Down syndrome and CHD.  God can do amazing things and nothing is impossible with Him.  We are called to look after orphans and widows in the Bible and that's what we're trying to do.  1 child at a time.


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Zehr 08632”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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My Story

This September, we will celebrate 14 years of marriage and in those 14 years, we've experienced so much.  The idea of adopting a child had always been on the back burner but had never taken center stage.  Sheila has wanted to adopt a child(ren) since birth, in fact the majority of her baby dolls were "adopted."  Throughout our marriage, the talk of adoption generally led to arguments and frustration because I (Dan) did not feel the same calling from the Lord.  In March of 2016 I was offered a promotion at work which meant that we had to move again to a new town, new church, and new schools.  Soon after moving we became very good friends with another family we met at our new church.  At that time, they were in the process of adopting their first child from China.  This obviously intrigued Sheila and she became very excited about the possibility of adopting our own someday.  In March of 2018, I reluctantly agreed to go to an informational meeting at our local adoption agency that Sheila had organized.  I don't think it was 1 minute after we walked out that we were already in an argument.  I had enough.  I told Sheila that if God was calling her to adopt then He'd have to call me to it as well.  Now keep in mind, both of us had and still have a very strong faith and relationship with Jesus and fully trusted that if it was meant to be that both of us would feel the calling.  About 6 months later, Sheila began talking to me about it more and more and I reiterated that if God was calling her to this, then He'd need to call me as well, but the difference was that I was willing to commit to praying about it.  As part of my daily devotions I began praying, "Lord, if you want us to adopt, please make it abundantly clear to me like you are with Sheila."  Because our friends had adopted twice now from China, we had it in our minds that if the Lord ever pricked my heart to adopt, we would attempt to do so from China.  As I prayed, Sheila prayed very hard as well that my heart would be softened.  There were signs all over the place and about 3 months after I started praying I was at work and I saw an older gentlemen (50's) with an Asian son who had Down syndrome.  We knew that if we adopted, our child would most likely have some sort of special needs.  That was it, and I finally told the Lord, o.k. I'm in.  I went home and told Sheila and she was overjoyed.  That week we made an appointment with the same adoption agency and the funny thing is, the same case worker met us at the door and said, "It's nice to see you again.  What's changed?"  I told her that God had finally put it on my heart and that I was tired of fighting all of the reasons not to.  There was a child somewhere in some foreign country that needed a mom and dad and a forever family that would love them.  Shortly after we were soft matched with a child we found on a waiting list.  He is almost 2 and is living with Down syndrome and CHD.  God can do amazing things and nothing is impossible with Him.  We are called to look after orphans and widows in the Bible and that's what we're trying to do.  1 child at a time.


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Zehr 08632”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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Comments

$200

Brandon and Kim

Oct 13, 2019

“Praying for you and your little guy! Can’t wait to watch your story unfold!”

$100

Stacey

Oct 1, 2019