Ten Years Long… But This Is God’s Story

Lydia Leggett
Lydia Leggett Canon City, Colorado

Update: We have been blessed with a $4,500.00 matching grant from Lifesong for Orphans. That means that every $1.00 you donate becomes $2.00 toward this adventure of bringing the Littlest Leggett home.

To those who gave through our other crowdfunding page, before we received this surprise grant: THANK YOU. Your gifts will still be used to help fund our adoption, even though they don't qualify for this match. 

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One thing we’ve learned: Everyone’s story is different. When we got married almost 11 years ago, we figured we’d do what it seemed like everyone did. We would adjust for a while to married life, maybe get out of some school debt, figure out our jobs, then start a family. Boom, boom, boom.

Two years into marriage, God moved us to southern Colorado to be part of a new church. As we got to know that new family, we made note of how common, accepted, and enjoyed adoption is. So many families within our church are formed by adoption. And as a result, we as a church have a better vision of our own adoption as children of God. Little did we know that God placed us directly here for his greater reasons than we could have guessed.

As the years went by, and people stopped asking when we were going to have children, it became clear that perhaps God selected this particular church family in order to walk us through the hardship of childlessness in a very specific, we’ve-walked-in-those-shoes kind of way.

Fast forward eight years, and we have been tested, tried, interviewed, and evaluated by a wonderful agency called Hope’s Promise, and we are now in the waiting pool to be selected by a birth mom. We are praying all the time for our little one, who is as yet unknown!

Adoption is impossible without the support of the many — from funding to raising children, we recognize that in God’s providence, it really does take a village. Would you join us in prayer, in waiting, and in finances?

Thank you for your prayers and love!


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Leggett 08584”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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Raised to date by 19 people
 of  $10,000
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My Story

Update: We have been blessed with a $4,500.00 matching grant from Lifesong for Orphans. That means that every $1.00 you donate becomes $2.00 toward this adventure of bringing the Littlest Leggett home.

To those who gave through our other crowdfunding page, before we received this surprise grant: THANK YOU. Your gifts will still be used to help fund our adoption, even though they don't qualify for this match. 

—–

One thing we’ve learned: Everyone’s story is different. When we got married almost 11 years ago, we figured we’d do what it seemed like everyone did. We would adjust for a while to married life, maybe get out of some school debt, figure out our jobs, then start a family. Boom, boom, boom.

Two years into marriage, God moved us to southern Colorado to be part of a new church. As we got to know that new family, we made note of how common, accepted, and enjoyed adoption is. So many families within our church are formed by adoption. And as a result, we as a church have a better vision of our own adoption as children of God. Little did we know that God placed us directly here for his greater reasons than we could have guessed.

As the years went by, and people stopped asking when we were going to have children, it became clear that perhaps God selected this particular church family in order to walk us through the hardship of childlessness in a very specific, we’ve-walked-in-those-shoes kind of way.

Fast forward eight years, and we have been tested, tried, interviewed, and evaluated by a wonderful agency called Hope’s Promise, and we are now in the waiting pool to be selected by a birth mom. We are praying all the time for our little one, who is as yet unknown!

Adoption is impossible without the support of the many — from funding to raising children, we recognize that in God’s providence, it really does take a village. Would you join us in prayer, in waiting, and in finances?

Thank you for your prayers and love!


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Leggett 08584”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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Our Matching Grant has been…matched!

September 30, 2019

THANK YOU. We cannot express how thankful we are that you gave to our story through Lifesong, and we have met our matching grant. Thank you, thank you, thank you. (The $4,500 “offline donation” in our story reflects the match from Lifesong.)

Everything beyond the match will still be helpful in our adoption journey, and as we wait to be matched in a whole different way — matched with a specific birthmother. 

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Why a private agency?

September 30, 2019

People have a lot of questions when you announce you’re adopting.

It’s completely understandable. By the time someone announces they’re adopting, they’ve usually been through a lot of informational meetings, interviews, paperwork, and training (16 hours in our case). Books and articles have been purchased and purused, if not entirely digested yet. In the case of those without biological kids, there isn’t experience to go on — so we look to friends, family, and those books. In the case of people with biological children welcoming an adoptive kiddo into their circle, their experience, we heard, is actually less helpful than they might think. You see, adoption has brokenness at its root. Adopting is good, and beautiful, and reflective of God’s heart… yes. All of those things. But for the little one, it starts with a broken connection with the birthmother they have known throughout their early growth and development. Research shows that attachment breaks even at so young an age, before even being cognitively aware, affects children in many ways. 

There’s a lot more to talk about there, but back to the many questions.

We’ve gotten the question a couple of times: Why does it cost so much?

That always begs another question: Why didn’t you just go through your local department of child welfare? There are lots of children who need forever families through the foster system.

These are valid. Let me work backwards.

We have dear friends who have five kids who came to them through foster care. They are incredible people. We sat down with them, learned from them, and realized that at this stage in our lives, we are not called to foster care. We fully expect that God could change that. These kids are made in God’s image and worthy of care and a home. So it is a hard and humbling thing to admit that some of their struggles and backgrounds feel, at this time, too big for us to take on. (We’ve said it before that everything about adoption feels so vulnerable. Admitting weakness is part of that.)

And so, we selected a private agency, which means it’s expensive. Why does it cost so much? We are convinced that a faithful, Christian organization that cares for birthmothers as well as their children and the adoptive families is worth its weight. Hope’s Promise looks for decidedly Christian families. That doesn’t necessarily mean that birthmoms coming in believe the same things. Our agency cares for these women in precious ways, from counseling — to see if they could indeed parent their child — to help in making an adoption plan when they feel ready to do that, to presenting them with the agency’s home-study approved families, to post-placement support (after baby has been placed in the home of the selected adoptive family). These caseworkers care well for the birthfamily. 

They also care well for us, investing in and checking on us as waiting families. They provide not only state-required training and resources, but also see to the legal requirements to ensure that baby is taken care of and protected. They are available to us throughout the process and after placement, offering support. Sure, they are held accountable to whatever state and federal adoption regulations there are — and they see to those thoroughly. But they know they are also accountable to God, who cares for the orphan and the widow. 

We’ve heard that 50 years ago, you could adopt for $100. What a world — we can’t even imagine. But we also are willing to bet that as adoption has become more and more appreciated and common, the process is (hopefully) more thorough and careful of all parties concerned.

We are open to questions, of course, because we know adoption is a unknown path to many people. As a close friend, who has three beautiful daughters they have adopted, says, “There are lots of opportunities to show grace in the adoption process.”  Much faith, hope, love, and grace is needed throughout these steps, and in this waiting.

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Comments

$100

Don

Sep 30, 2019

“Love and prayers to you and your family”

$4,500

Offline Donation

Sep 25, 2019

$50

Rachel

Sep 23, 2019

“We are praying for the Littlest Leggett!”

$50

Jill and Jeremy

Sep 21, 2019

“We are so excited for this next part of your journey, Lydia and Aaron! Can't wait to see the many ways that God is glorified through your story!”

$2,640

John L

Sep 21, 2019

“Glad to do it? :)”

$200

Mary

Sep 19, 2019

$100

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Sep 18, 2019

“God bless!”

$50

Laura and Frank

Sep 16, 2019

“Love you Lydia and Aaron! We're excited for what God is up to in you and through you!”

$400

Judd and Donna

Sep 13, 2019

“I have a very special place in my heart for you both as Judd was adopted. I pray that God's perfect timing for your child to come in to your lives happens in the blink of an eye. Love to you both!”

$200

A Margaret

Sep 13, 2019

“Love you!”

$100

Nathan and Christa

Sep 11, 2019

$30

Bethany

Sep 10, 2019

“Blessings!”

$30

Kim

Sep 8, 2019

“Praying for you and the Littlest Leggett.”

$100

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Sep 8, 2019

$50

Greg

Sep 7, 2019

“May God bless you and your future child through this adventure. - Greg and Beth”

$200

Mary

Sep 6, 2019

$100

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Sep 6, 2019

“We are so excited for you guys!!”

$100

Don & Linda

Sep 6, 2019

“God bless 🙏”

$200

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Sep 6, 2019

“Excited for the new addition to your family! :)”