Skrepak Family Adoption

Melissa Skrepak
Melissa Skrepak Spirit Lake, Iowa

Early on in our marriage we sat at the kitchen table and talked about how wonderful it would be to adopt someday. I have no idea what triggered the conversation but we both felt the call. We didn’t know what it meant and were honestly very naïve and believing it, as we thought it would be years down the road, after we had biological children of course.

Little did we know that we would have difficulty trying to have a child. After completing fertility testing, we found out that we did not even meet a diagnosis. Neither of us wanted to pursue any further medical treatments but resolved that someday we would continue to pursue adoption. We continued to navigate this unresolved grief we had in desiring to have a child of our own yet having peace about adopting as well.

In the Spring of 2017, we sat down and plotted out some life goals again in our kitchen, where all the meaningful conversations seem to happen. Ultimately, we decided that I would first go back to school and get my Master’s Degree. Becoming a mental health counselor is something I’ve always wanted to do, and Austin was fully on board with it. In the meantime, if we ended up having our own child, we would have welcomed the opportunity. However, it didn’t happen. Grad school was a great distraction from the grief of infertility, and we continued to have peace about our future. In March 2020, we met with the adoption agency, Bethany Christian Services and knew this was the time to pursue adoption. What better time than COVID-19?! And so here we are, waiting for our child.

We know that adopting a child is not going to fill some void in our lives. Rather, we believe that by adopting a child we are advancing God’s kingdom and adding to our lives. We are passionate about providing a Christian home to our child(ren) and desire to raise a child that is proud to be adopted. We will tell our child early and often that he/she is adopted. We are learning that adoption is a sad, raw, and beautiful process. We are doing our best to pay attention to the beauty God is creating out of ashes. Ashes from our own grief in not being able to have a biological child, ashes for the expectant family that will give up the opportunity to raise a child, and the ashes that come from the child’s grief in not being raised by his/her biological family. We are expectant that the Lord is creating something beautiful and we can’t wait to unravel it as time goes on.


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Skrepak 09310”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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Early on in our marriage we sat at the kitchen table and talked about how wonderful it would be to adopt someday. I have no idea what triggered the conversation but we both felt the call. We didn’t know what it meant and were honestly very naïve and believing it, as we thought it would be years down the road, after we had biological children of course.

Little did we know that we would have difficulty trying to have a child. After completing fertility testing, we found out that we did not even meet a diagnosis. Neither of us wanted to pursue any further medical treatments but resolved that someday we would continue to pursue adoption. We continued to navigate this unresolved grief we had in desiring to have a child of our own yet having peace about adopting as well.

In the Spring of 2017, we sat down and plotted out some life goals again in our kitchen, where all the meaningful conversations seem to happen. Ultimately, we decided that I would first go back to school and get my Master’s Degree. Becoming a mental health counselor is something I’ve always wanted to do, and Austin was fully on board with it. In the meantime, if we ended up having our own child, we would have welcomed the opportunity. However, it didn’t happen. Grad school was a great distraction from the grief of infertility, and we continued to have peace about our future. In March 2020, we met with the adoption agency, Bethany Christian Services and knew this was the time to pursue adoption. What better time than COVID-19?! And so here we are, waiting for our child.

We know that adopting a child is not going to fill some void in our lives. Rather, we believe that by adopting a child we are advancing God’s kingdom and adding to our lives. We are passionate about providing a Christian home to our child(ren) and desire to raise a child that is proud to be adopted. We will tell our child early and often that he/she is adopted. We are learning that adoption is a sad, raw, and beautiful process. We are doing our best to pay attention to the beauty God is creating out of ashes. Ashes from our own grief in not being able to have a biological child, ashes for the expectant family that will give up the opportunity to raise a child, and the ashes that come from the child’s grief in not being raised by his/her biological family. We are expectant that the Lord is creating something beautiful and we can’t wait to unravel it as time goes on.


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Skrepak 09310”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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