As many of you know, Eliza Ruth, "Ru", came home from Korea in June of 2019. What an adventure it was. From staying in Korea for weeks, to midnight walks to help her sleep, to carrying the stroller up the stairs to her room in desperation for an ounce of sleep. Now we have a 3 year old that fits seamlessly into the fabric of our family while adding her own culture, heritage, and uniqueness. We prepared for her adoption. We were mentally ready for the challenges we knew would come. We prepared for the grief and the trauma. And while the grief in the beginning was rough, the sweetness far outweighs the difficulties of those long nights. We know there are many more years to come that may bring their own challenges, but in this season we are so grateful. This girl is a spicy, fiesty, treasure... and we could not be more grateful for the gift of parenting her.
We have been sitting on something. Holding it close to our hearts while the unknowns of this Covid-plagued world played out. We have been matched with our 4th babe since October of 2020. We knew about her on her first birthday in October. My dad knew about her and saw her picture before he died. We just weren't ready to share her with our bigger circles with so many unknowns that are playing out internationally right now. This felt so against my natural inclination to share my full self and truth with literally everyone I encounter, always. Our journey to her was complex with bumps and agency changes, and so we wanted to wait until things felt more settled.
But here we are. Ready to say yes. And ready to share and celebrate. Of course nothing is final, and if either of her birth parents decide to parent while we wait through the process, we will celebrate that for her while grieving the visions of what we had envisioned for our family. She has some medical complexities that we don't intend to share publicly, but would appreciate your prayers around. But just like we would want people to come around us in the struggle, we also want to share in the celebration.
We cannot wait to meet this dear babe. We cannot wait for Eliza to have a Korean sibling and for them to have a mirror in each other their entire lives. We know that adoption stories are born out of trauma and loss. She is not "lucky". We are not "great". We are just willing to say yes. Yes to unknowns. Yes to hard. Yes because we have abundance, ability, hope, and faith.
Finding her name has come with as many changes and ups and downs as the rest of the process. We have finally landed, yet until we bring her home we fully reserve the right to change our mind... and since she will come home older she may also not want anything to do with the English names we have chosen for her, and we would honor that choice as well.
Meet Margot Solise Yi Noto.
Margot means pearl. A pearl is formed from challenge and work. A grain of sand is lodged in an oyster and over time a point of pain is turned into something beautiful. We hope this for her life. We hope the challenge of her adoption story is ultimately turned into something beautiful. Marie is a family name on the Noto side, so we also wanted to use a piece of Marie to honor Jon's side of the family.
Solise is a combination of her Korean name and my middle name. Just like we frequently call Eliza "Ru", we want her to be able to go by Sol. (Sollie is also the cutest thing I've ever heard). My middle name is Louise. It was my dad's mothers name. I wanted to pass something on to honor my dad, even though I didn't know my grandmother personally. I have heard of her tenacity and love of her family, and I hope this babe has that too. I love that Solise gives her a name from both her birth mother and her forever mama.
Yi is her Korean surname. Her Korean family and lineage is important. We want this to be honored.
So here comes the ask. We are so hesitant to fundraise in a season that is so financially challenging for so many while we are still afloat. Please feel no pressure to give. We have been gifted with a matching grant through Lifesong. It will be matched dollar to dollar up to $5000. It is our hope to reach this full grant. The costs of adoption have gone up substantially because in addition to the previous costs, we now have a 2-week quarantine for our family in a government facility upon arrival to South Korea at the tune of approx. $150 per person, per day. In a way, we are grateful for this. It means Korea is still a country we can travel to and that we can still bring our babe home as soon as they call. But it is a huge expense on top of an already expensive process and the matching grant will be incredibly helpful.
Thank you in advance for celebrating with us. For coming alongside us and loving our family through the ups and the downs. Thank you for circling up when my dad passed away this year. We have an abundance in our community and we are forever grateful. Your support in all the ways helps us feel confident in our Yes. Yes to our girls. Yes to hard things. Yes to making earth more like heaven.
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