This summer, as Derek and I put our kids to bed, we encouraged them to pray for a sweet, precious, and feisty girl we had met. This young girl was here in the US through an international hosting program and would only be here for a short time before she would return to her orphanage in her home country. We explained that we needed to pray that she would be cared for, loved, have plenty to eat, and that she would know that God loves her and that we love her. Then my daughter looked at me and said “Mom, why don’t we just bring her home?”. Inside I’d been asking myself the same question for a couple of weeks. But I was scared. Scared of what Derek would think if I said what I was thinking out loud. Scared of what our extended families would think. Scared of what it meant for the children I’d given birth to. I responded, “Well, why don’t you pray about that.”. As we walked out of their room, I knew it was time to share with Derek what God had been laying on my heart. Little did I know, that God had been speaking to him as well. Before I could explain what was on my heart and that I’d had been researching the adoption process in her country, Derek showed me his computer, full of tabs where he too had been researching what it might take to make this child our own.
This was the beginning of a journey that has just begun.
We prayed. We cried. We prayed some more. But ultimately, we felt that God had called us to this child. For several years we had talked about adoption, but it was just a “one day” thought. But now, it was real and present. It was an orphan in our presence that was no longer a statistic, but a child that we’d grown to love.
Adoption is hard. It’s hard for everyone involved. For the adopted child (especially an older one), they will leave everything they have ever known (good or bad) for a life that is completely foreign to them. They will have to learn to trust a family they don’t know, that proclaims to love them, when all they have ever known is loss. Loss of their birth parents, loss of friends who have aged out of their orphanage, loss of friends who have been adopted to new families, loss of workers in their orphanage who have moved on.
For the adoptive family, they will have to try and balance their time and attention with their newly adopted child, and their biological children. Trying to show one that they are indeed part of the family, and loved as such, while trying to show the others they are still as important as they always have been. Then there is the fear. Fear that you won’t be enough. Fear that your adoptive child might not reciprocate your love. Fear that your biological children will act out because they feel unimportant because your current focus is on helping your adopted child adjust.
But in the end, God has called us to more. More than just a comfortable life focused on ourselves. More than a career or success. God has called us to be his hands and feet. Derek and I ask that you pray with us as we work to get our girl home for good.
“A” will be joining us for Christmas hosting but will then have to return to her orphanage until we can bring her home forever. We ask that you will prayerfully consider a donation to help us offset the financial burden of the adoption expenses.
We have received a $3000 matching grant from Hope That Binds Adoption Fund, managed by Lifesong for Orphans. If we received at least $3000 in donations it will be matched.
STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Rothrock 8043”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.
Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.
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