Post Adoption Support

Neal & Kim Kellenberger
Neal & Kim Kellenberger Mahomet, Illinois

We adopted our beautiful daughter, Shena, at 14 months old from Ethiopia.  We were so excited to bring her and her twin sister, Kebe, into our family, sharing in a physical adoption that mirrored the spiritual adoption we were so grateful for!  As the years went by, we grew more and more attached to our twins, and we watched as their personalities grew and they become individuals.  Kebe is more shy and quiet, though she can belt out a tune when she needs to, while Shena is more rambunctious and outgoing.  As the more natural extrovert, Shena was (and is) fun to hang out with.  She always had spunk and enthusiasm.  Through the years, we noticed that there was some resistence and opposition growing, though it was always contained while she was younger.  We did some therapy through the years, and felt pretty good about our attachment and where things were headed.

Fast forward to March, 2020, when the world was turned upside down by COVID-19.  All our kids came home 24/7 for several months as schools and stores shut down.  This was when we really noticed Shena’s behavior’s escalating.  Over the next few months, Shena struggled to regulate and her behaviors could not be managed.  We struggled through day after day, battling mental exhaustion and weariness, as it took a toll on our whole family.  It is VERY complex, and cannot be reduced to any one thing.  We did general counseling for a few months, and then got in with a highly trained early childhood trauma and attachment specialist.  We are recognizing that this is going to be a long road for our family, and there is no easy fix that will make it go away. But we are committed to doing everything we can to help Shena, and to see healing take place in her and our family.

Previously, we had raised funds to help support our family financially as Shena was at a childrens home in southern Illinois.  The Lord provided through friends and family, and a matching grant from Lifesong.  While we were hopeful for healing and transformation through this avenue that opened up rather miraculously, Shena was only there for about 2.5 months, before she was discharged due to violent behavior.  At the end of November, Shena transitioned to a home that specializes with RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder), in Texas.  This is a private pay guardianship agreement in a therapeutic home environment.  The house parents have been working with chlidren with RAD and other attachment and trauma for 25+ years.  This home works with a highly skilled psychologist, psychiatrist and attachment therapist that they have partnered with for years and years as well.

The cost for this home is $2,800/month (substantially more than the childrens home), not including the “out of network” (and out of pocket) costs for the pscyhologist and psychiatrist that Shena is (and will be) seeing.  Our previous funding raised through Lifesong will last for 3 months at this new home.  This is not covered by health insurance or any other method, and needs to be paid out of pocket.  We are expecting her to be there 12-18 months, but have been told to prepare for 18 ($50,000).  We are so thankful that Lifesong has given us an additional $10,000 grant, in order to spur our community to give and have their gifts matched up to the $10,000.  Lifesong has been so incredibly gracious and caring through this process.  They have followed our story and really went above and beyond with this second grant!  We are so grateful for the love and support we’ve experienced through this process.

In full transparency, your donations will go to Lifesong, and they turn around and reimburse us for expenses incurred for the monthly costs from a paid invoice and cancelled check each month.  Thank you for considering a donation to help cover some of these costs!  And quite honestly, for praying for our family.  The power of prayer is real, and this is critical over the next 18 months!

To help put your donation into perspective:

$100 donation pays for 1 day of care.

$1400 donation pays for 2 weeks of  care.

$2800 pays for 4 weeks of care.

If you feel moved we are ok with this need being shared within your community.  Knowing you and your friends/family are praying means the world to us!  And PLEASE ask if you want to know more details, or if anyone you share this with would like more details (we prefer to keep a lot of the hard to write details off this to protect Shena, since it is a public internet page).

John 6:68 says ‘Lord, to whom shall we go?  You have words of eternal life.’  When all else we cherish is stripped away from us, God alone remains. 

Hold on beloved, Ressurection day approaches. 

 


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Kellenberger 90286”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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Raised to date by 54 people
 of  $30,000
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My Story

We adopted our beautiful daughter, Shena, at 14 months old from Ethiopia.  We were so excited to bring her and her twin sister, Kebe, into our family, sharing in a physical adoption that mirrored the spiritual adoption we were so grateful for!  As the years went by, we grew more and more attached to our twins, and we watched as their personalities grew and they become individuals.  Kebe is more shy and quiet, though she can belt out a tune when she needs to, while Shena is more rambunctious and outgoing.  As the more natural extrovert, Shena was (and is) fun to hang out with.  She always had spunk and enthusiasm.  Through the years, we noticed that there was some resistence and opposition growing, though it was always contained while she was younger.  We did some therapy through the years, and felt pretty good about our attachment and where things were headed.

Fast forward to March, 2020, when the world was turned upside down by COVID-19.  All our kids came home 24/7 for several months as schools and stores shut down.  This was when we really noticed Shena’s behavior’s escalating.  Over the next few months, Shena struggled to regulate and her behaviors could not be managed.  We struggled through day after day, battling mental exhaustion and weariness, as it took a toll on our whole family.  It is VERY complex, and cannot be reduced to any one thing.  We did general counseling for a few months, and then got in with a highly trained early childhood trauma and attachment specialist.  We are recognizing that this is going to be a long road for our family, and there is no easy fix that will make it go away. But we are committed to doing everything we can to help Shena, and to see healing take place in her and our family.

Previously, we had raised funds to help support our family financially as Shena was at a childrens home in southern Illinois.  The Lord provided through friends and family, and a matching grant from Lifesong.  While we were hopeful for healing and transformation through this avenue that opened up rather miraculously, Shena was only there for about 2.5 months, before she was discharged due to violent behavior.  At the end of November, Shena transitioned to a home that specializes with RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder), in Texas.  This is a private pay guardianship agreement in a therapeutic home environment.  The house parents have been working with chlidren with RAD and other attachment and trauma for 25+ years.  This home works with a highly skilled psychologist, psychiatrist and attachment therapist that they have partnered with for years and years as well.

The cost for this home is $2,800/month (substantially more than the childrens home), not including the “out of network” (and out of pocket) costs for the pscyhologist and psychiatrist that Shena is (and will be) seeing.  Our previous funding raised through Lifesong will last for 3 months at this new home.  This is not covered by health insurance or any other method, and needs to be paid out of pocket.  We are expecting her to be there 12-18 months, but have been told to prepare for 18 ($50,000).  We are so thankful that Lifesong has given us an additional $10,000 grant, in order to spur our community to give and have their gifts matched up to the $10,000.  Lifesong has been so incredibly gracious and caring through this process.  They have followed our story and really went above and beyond with this second grant!  We are so grateful for the love and support we’ve experienced through this process.

In full transparency, your donations will go to Lifesong, and they turn around and reimburse us for expenses incurred for the monthly costs from a paid invoice and cancelled check each month.  Thank you for considering a donation to help cover some of these costs!  And quite honestly, for praying for our family.  The power of prayer is real, and this is critical over the next 18 months!

To help put your donation into perspective:

$100 donation pays for 1 day of care.

$1400 donation pays for 2 weeks of  care.

$2800 pays for 4 weeks of care.

If you feel moved we are ok with this need being shared within your community.  Knowing you and your friends/family are praying means the world to us!  And PLEASE ask if you want to know more details, or if anyone you share this with would like more details (we prefer to keep a lot of the hard to write details off this to protect Shena, since it is a public internet page).

John 6:68 says ‘Lord, to whom shall we go?  You have words of eternal life.’  When all else we cherish is stripped away from us, God alone remains. 

Hold on beloved, Ressurection day approaches. 

 


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Kellenberger 90286”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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$750

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Jan 6, 2022

“We love your family so much! SOO Much!”

$2,500

KSi

Jan 4, 2022

$2,800

Christ

Jan 3, 2022

“From the CC benevolence team on behalf of your entire church family.”

$250

Will + Mackenzie

Jan 2, 2022

“We love you and Shena so much. We will continue to pray earnestly for you all!!”

$150

Hidden

Dec 29, 2021

“We love your family and are praying for you!”

$400

Todd and Michelle

Dec 28, 2021

“We love you guys!”

$100

Michel

Dec 27, 2021

“Love your family! Romans 12:12!”

$200

Michel

Dec 24, 2021

“Praying for you all and sweet Shena during this time. May our redemptive God make beauty from ashes. And may He keep you two in perfect peace by staying your minds upon Him. Love you guys! Please let us know if there is any way we can help carry your burdens during this time. Blessings! The Elsasser Family”

$255

Darren

Dec 23, 2021

$100

Jody

Dec 22, 2021

“Love you and your dear family! Praying for you all in this journey!”

$100

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Dec 21, 2021

“We are keeping you all in our prayers!”

$500

Hidden

Dec 21, 2021

$250

Orphans Treasure

Dec 20, 2021

$200

Roy & Shari

Dec 20, 2021

“Love from Sabetha”

$100

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Dec 19, 2021

$50

David

Dec 19, 2021

“Praying for your family!”

$100

Deborah and Les

Dec 18, 2021

“Praying for you all.”

$200

Kimberly

Dec 18, 2021

“Grateful for you all. Honored to be part of this. All for glory of God.”

$1,000

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Dec 17, 2021

“Love you guys! Prayers for you all!”

$250

Garrett

Dec 17, 2021

“We love you guys!”

$50

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Dec 17, 2021

“Praying for your family! We love you!”

$500

Alex

Dec 15, 2021

“Praying that God would continue to provide for you guys, and especially praying that God would provide restoration for Shena!”

$103

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Dec 13, 2021

$300

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Dec 13, 2021

$100

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Dec 12, 2021

$100

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Dec 12, 2021

“Kellenbergers~Such tough stuff! Rebuking the stupid devil and his attacks, and may Jesus restore all to health, and most importantly a relationship with Him. God bless your beautiful family! D&S”

$750

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Dec 11, 2021

“Praying for your family.”

$250

Rachel

Dec 11, 2021

“Praying for Shena & the Lord’s renewing strength for your family! Logan & Rachel (Kaeb) Slagel”

$100

Jocelyn

Dec 11, 2021

$500

Gary

Dec 11, 2021

$500

Dutch and Barb

Dec 11, 2021

“We are praying for you and for Shena.”

$100

Ramona

Dec 10, 2021

$100

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Dec 10, 2021

“Dear Neal and Kim, Thank you so much for sharing your story with us and being so vulnerable. I will continue to pray for you guys and for Shena. Love you guys! Noah + Anna”

$100

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Dec 10, 2021

“Love you guys!”

$100

Leann

Dec 10, 2021

“Love and prayers for Shena and all of you!”

$250

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Dec 9, 2021

“Praying protection over the Kellenberger family and Shena”

$1,000

Riley and Kristin

Dec 9, 2021

“So thankful for the opportunity to pray for and support you all!”

$1,000

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Dec 9, 2021

$500

Susan

Dec 9, 2021

“Xoxo”

$500

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Dec 9, 2021

“Our family is praying for you and we hope that Shena gets the care she needs!”

$20

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Dec 9, 2021

“Pray for you and your families! May God blesses you always!”

$100

Sarah

Dec 9, 2021

$200

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Dec 9, 2021

$1,025

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Dec 9, 2021

“Love you and praying!!”

$600

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Jul 22, 2021

$330

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Jul 21, 2021

“Praying for God's continued work in your family.”

$500

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Jul 21, 2021

$1,500

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Jul 21, 2021

$2,000

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Jul 4, 2021

“Our prayers are extended for your family”

$250

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Jul 2, 2021

$150

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Jun 29, 2021

“We love you guys.”

$100

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Jun 25, 2021

$500

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Jun 24, 2021

“Thank you for your message and honest realities of life. God Bless you!”

$75

Elsie

Jun 24, 2021

“Dear Kim and Neal, May God bless you for your transparency and willingness to share your needs. Thank you for the link. Sending huge hugs. Blessings, Aunt Elsie & Uncle Merle”