Julia became aware of adoption and felt God place it on her heart back in high school during her time in church youth group. She was drawn to adoption because of the beautiful picture of adoption into God’s family found in Scripture and because of the need that had been presented through mercy ministries and the church. Brian had always thought adoption was a “good thing,” but never really understood the important weight it held until he studied into his own adoption as a son of God! When this truth captivated him in college, he began thinking, “Wow. God, you did this for me and brought me into your family. Are you calling me to do the same for a child one day?” It was a question that was going to be made clear a few years later in our marriage.
As an engaged and newly married couple, we dreamed about what our family would look like, and planned to pursue adoption after having several children biologically. After trying to conceive for almost a year and a half, we found out that God had other plans for our family growth. We were diagnosed with an infertility condition and told we would never be able to have children. The very day that the we learned the news, Brian said, “I’ve never had a clearer call upon my life than I do now to be an adoptive parent…God has orchestrated our lives to become adoptive parents together.” After wrestling through the loss of this life-long dream and submitting our desires to the Lord in prayer for several months, we moved forward into the pursuit of domestic infant adoption in March.
After completing the rigorous home study process, we became active with our adoption consultant June 4th. On July 3rd, we got the phone call that changed our lives – we matched with a birthmother! We flew to Arizona and for 10 days had the amazing gift of being parents to a beautiful baby girl that we named Abigail Ruth. Then, in a heart breaking and unexpected turn of events, we had to return her to her biological father when he filed a paternity claim the day before his rights terminated. We are grieving this loss of a child, but remain confident that the Lord is in control of our story and the process of building our family.
We are also praising God for the amazing support and encouragement that we have received from our friends, family, church, and the adoption community at large. Infertility and the decision to adopt required us to ask for help. Many of you have ministered to us in a variety of ways over the past several months — messages of encouragement, offering wise counsel, writing reference letters, giving financially, volunteering at our fundraising events, and lifting us up in prayer. Thank you so, so much.
Humbly, we are asking for your help again. Before our adoption was interrupted, we paid the match fee of $44,000 to our agency in Arizona. We took out a loan to cover this expense because we had not completed the bulk of our fundraising prior to match. Unfortunately, we have lost between $5,000-$6,000 in our failed adoption, and we still have to pay back the loan, not knowing when or how the Lord will provide us with another birth mother or child. However, what we do know is that the Lord is able to provide for all our needs, and He often uses His people as instruments of provision. Will you consider donating to our adoption fund and joining us in prayer as we trust that the Lord will work and move? All donations given through the MyStory platform are tax deductible and managed through the 501c3 Lifesong for Orphans. Thank you for your support!
Ephesians 3:20-21. “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.”
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