After meeting in high school and dating in college, we married during graduate school in June 2007. From the beginning of our marriage, our expectations for life were challenged. In fact, we totaled our car when we hit a deer on the night of our wedding! God kept us safe and showed us that we could trust him, even in dangerous circumstances, mere hours into our marriage. This was just the first of many experiences through which God guided our lives in unexpected and difficult circumstances.
In 2012, we began trying to have a family, but unfortunately the journey was not as easy as anticipated. As we struggled to understand what was happening, God provided us with a community of couples facing similar issues, a supportive church, and a growing understanding of his goodness amidst hardship. After a few years of infertility and miscarriages, we ended medical treatments and began to pray that the Lord would show us his desire for our future. Within a week, we received a phone call about a job opportunity in California (we lived in the Midwest at the time). This was an unexpected open door that exceeded our expectations and understanding, so we found ourselves moving across the country. After the move, we decided to get a second opinion regarding our infertility, which led to several rounds of failed infertility treatments and our ultimate decision to end all medical pursuits in December 2016. Although the door to have biological children seemed to be closed, we still desired to have a family and began to pray for direction.
Throughout our journey of infertility, the idea of adoption has come up frequently. Sometimes people have framed adoption as a natural “solution” to our infertility. We have resisted this idea because we do not see using adoption to gain what we lack as good, realistic, or fair for a child or for us. Over this past year, we have spent intentional time praying about our future and through that process God has opened our eyes to his plan for our lives. He has shown us that our ability and desire to be parents is a gift from him which he has called us to use in love through adoption. While this is not the way we thought we would become parents, we are eager to see what God will do in and through our family beyond our understanding or imagination. While we still experience the pain of infertility, God has been healing our grief by filling us with a new and different love and hope for our lives and family which includes adoption. We are grateful that the Lord has revealed his heart to us and that he has quickly turned our hesitation to adopt into excitement for serving him and welcoming a child into our family.
We do not know what child God will place into our home. We do not know the timeline. We do not know all of the legal, financial, or personal logistics, but we do know that God is good. We know that he loves and cares for us. We know that he has clearly and quickly changed our hearts and brought us to a place we never would have chosen on our own. We know that we can trust him and have hope because he is always with us. He is the reason why we said, “yes” to the adventure of adoption and we are so excited to trust him in what is to come.
Please consider supporting our adoption through a financial gift. Our goal is to raise $25,000 to cover a portion of our total estimated expenses of $45,000. We have been awarded a grant through Lifesong for Orphans which will match the first $3,000.
STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Walder 7799”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.
Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.
- In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
- Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.