Our next adoption journey

Rachel Frazier
Rachel Frazier Knoxville, Tennessee

Hello Friends!

Surprise! We are adopting again!

We have kept this news close to our hearts as we have prayed and prepared for the next steps.

Many of you followed our 2 year long journey that started in early 2021. We learned a lot about adoption..some of which we learned the hard way. Fortunately after our failed matches, we were blessed with the sweetest little blonde boy. We learned that God’s timing is always perfect.

We have witnessed God’s faithfulness and feel so blessed to have our 3 beautiful children. We feel so fortunate to be in the adoption process for the second time. We are so thankful to each and every person who stood by us the first time. We probably wouldn’t be where we are today if we didn’t have such an amazing support system that surrounded us with prayers and generosity.

We have been graciously blessed with a matching grant in the amount of $4,000. For every dollar donated, Lifesong will match up to this amount. We hope you prayerfully consider donating.

Above all else, we ask for your prayers for us during this time. Prayers for the child God has for our family, prayers for that child’s birth family, and prayers for us during this time of waiting. We want to follow God’s plan and live out his will for our lives.

Thank you for your love and support!

-Guy and Rachel


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction)*. Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Frazier 10509”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
  • *3.5% fee for donations given with an American Express card
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My Story

Hello Friends!

Surprise! We are adopting again!

We have kept this news close to our hearts as we have prayed and prepared for the next steps.

Many of you followed our 2 year long journey that started in early 2021. We learned a lot about adoption..some of which we learned the hard way. Fortunately after our failed matches, we were blessed with the sweetest little blonde boy. We learned that God’s timing is always perfect.

We have witnessed God’s faithfulness and feel so blessed to have our 3 beautiful children. We feel so fortunate to be in the adoption process for the second time. We are so thankful to each and every person who stood by us the first time. We probably wouldn’t be where we are today if we didn’t have such an amazing support system that surrounded us with prayers and generosity.

We have been graciously blessed with a matching grant in the amount of $4,000. For every dollar donated, Lifesong will match up to this amount. We hope you prayerfully consider donating.

Above all else, we ask for your prayers for us during this time. Prayers for the child God has for our family, prayers for that child’s birth family, and prayers for us during this time of waiting. We want to follow God’s plan and live out his will for our lives.

Thank you for your love and support!

-Guy and Rachel


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction)*. Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Frazier 10509”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
  • *3.5% fee for donations given with an American Express card
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Part VI

June 21, 2023

So we get the phone call and the attorney tells us that the birth mom decided not to proceed with her pregnancy and got an abortion. She assumed it was due to the father possibly conesting the adoption. I instantly broke out in tears when she told me the news. I was so sad for that baby. Sad for her mom to feel that was the best decision for her. Sad for the birth father not to have a choice. I realized there was nothing more I could do about that situation except to pray for that mom and dad and peace for us to move on. We soon learned that we lost a siginifant amount of money, which made it very difficult to even imagine moving forward with adoption again. We took some time to think, pray, and rest. I really tried to look at my amazing, beautiful family and see that it was complete, but I knew deep down that it wasn’t. I have prayed so many nights for God to show us what His will is for our family. Without a doubt, I believe we are supposed to adopt again.

We lost over 30 thousand dollars with the two disruptions. This has also made things a little more complicated when thinking about the financial aspect of adopting again, but God keeps showing us that He will provide. We have learned a lot about the adoption process over the past 2.5 years and pray for the lords guidance. We are so thankful that God has brought us through and given us our sweet little boy. We cant wait to see what He has in store for us next. Thank you for taking time to read our story to this point. We truly value our gift of parenthood and promise to do our best to raise our children in a Christ centered home. We are so excited to adopt another child and share our journey to meet him or her. We ask for your prayers and we thank you for your support. 

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Part V

June 20, 2023

So we finally have our sweet little boy home and settling into our life as a family of 5. 
Although, we had matched, we were still active with our attorney.
We had signed with an adoption attorney back in the summer because our contract with the consultant was coming to an end soon and we wanted to have our next plan in place. 
I might add, I don’t believe that was God’s plan at all. Maybe I haven’t mentioned before, but we didn’t always listen to that small voice inside. We were coming close to 2 years in and were getting impatient and worried about what to do next. Soo we made other plans. As you will see, these plans just lead to more heartache.

…back to our story. We got a call from our attorney that we had matched with a baby girl! Matched! It took so long to match with one baby and somehow we matched with two at the same time!  I had a small pit in my stomach, not because I didn’t want this baby girl, because I did! I was overjoyed thinking about how we would have a big family with our 4 kids and finally feel complete! But.. I had that feeling I couldn’t shake. What was I supposed to do.. tell the attorney NO? We didn’t want to accept that match because of a feeling? we had already been down that road of a disruption and I didn’t want to risk that again, but what if it was our baby girl? 
I ignored that feeling and we borrowed money and sent it in to the attorney. Surely she had our best interest at heart and wouldn’t let us lose anymore money. She knew we had already lost money on our first disruption and we couldn’t imagine losing more. 

Well…

Some time passes and we get a phone call from our attorney saying there was the possibility that the birth father was not on board with adoption and things were being put on hold. He didn’t know that we wanted an open adoption so he assumed if she was put up for adoption he would never see her again. He didn’t exactly know if he wanted to raise her, but needed time to think about things and possibly meet us and discuss open adoption. We understood his concerns. He wanted a month to decide. So we just took that time to enjoy our little family and get to know our little Ruston. 
One late night we were laying in bed and my phone rings. It was the attorney. I knew something wasn’t right. I answered and she was very upset and told me how sorry she was. I was prepared for her to say the birth father was not going through with the adoption, but that’s not what she said…

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Part IV

June 19, 2023

Months go by and I felt like I was on a rollercoaster full of emotions. Sometimes I felt strong and full of faith and other days I felt sad and impatient. 
One fall day I drove up to my sisters to take her to treatment and stayed with her and my grandparents. It was such a relaxing evening with my family. My phone was inside on the charger and I go in to pick it up to call Guy, as he was getting off work. I got a text from our agency .. “can you talk?” Uhh yes! I immediately said yes! So she called and told us about a sweet little 9 month old boy that we would present on the next day. I was so anxious, nervous, excited, peaceful. I prayed “Lord if he is ours, let his mom know immediately with no doubts”. It was a long day of waiting, but I had such peace. I drove 1.5 hours back home and started unpacking our bags and my phone rings.. it’s you! She chose you! Come meet your sweet baby! I ran downstairs yelling for Guy and we all cried. These girls were so excited to meet their new brother. We couldn’t believe it!
We had a long drive to meet him. We had a lot of time to think and talk and laugh and cry. We realized what a miracle it was that we were going to bring home a child, a son. 
What a blessing it was the night we met our little boy. Our girls loved him from the minute they met him. I still can’t describe how beautiful their relationship is even from the moment they met. God is good! He truly is a good good God. He was faithful and He showed us even through the pain and loss, He had a plan. A plan to bring THIS child home. We probably wouldn’t have ever met this sweet boy if we had not had the first disruption. There was a bigger plan. 

We met our sweet sons birth mom who we have an open adoption with. We are so grateful to her. She is a beautiful person that gave us such a wonderful gift. We hope to be a light in her life and show her the love of Christ. 
This journey has been so much more than expanding our family and we truly cherish this gift we have been blessed with. 

Our journey continues with a few more twists and turns…

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Part III

June 18, 2023

So the baby’s due date arrives and we had the van packed up and ready to go. We just wait for the phone call to leave. 

During that time of waiting my sister got diagnosed with cancer and I was very overwhelmed with so many emotions. I was so ready to meet the baby, but I was also very sad to leave my sister during those first few weeks of testing and treatment decisions. I remember so vividly sitting at my sisters PET scan and looking over at her face. I looked down at my phone as a text came in from our agency. My heart sank as I read the words .. the baby was born a few days ago and mom has changed her mind. I didn’t even know how to feel at that exact moment. Looking over at my sister and knowing what she was dealing with, sad to tell our girls that we wouldn’t be bringing their brother home right now, but thankful that mom made a way to keep her baby and preserve her family. We knew God had the child for our family and the happiness and sadness that coincided would make sense one day right? 

The next few months was full of busy days. I was so very sad to unpack our baby bags and take down the nursery. I wasn’t sure what God had planned for our family, but I did know our adoption story wasn’t over. 
I was also thankful that I was home during that time. Praying over my sister. Praying with the doctors. God blessed her immensely during that time. He helped strengthen our faith, even when things seemed hard. 

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Part II

June 17, 2023

So I mentioned I wasn’t on my phone much, while on our trip..

We were at the pool swimming for a few hours and I realized I left my phone at the beach so I walked down to pick it up and had a missed call and a text saying “can you call me?” (The consultant) so I called and she said.. you’re matched! I was silent.. I said matched? With who!? Remember, we were 1.5 years in and we had said yes to over 60 cases at that point. A lot of them seemed to run together. This particular baby was due a few weeks out and it had been a week since we said yes to being presented, so at that point I didn’t think we had a chance. I was shocked to say the least.. it was a joy I can’t even describe. I took off running to our condo and crying the whole way. I yelled at Guy saying “we matched!” He looked very puzzled.. with who? He asked. I was crying and out of breath from running up the beach so I just handed him the phone. 
Later that night we were able to talk with the agency and ask all the questions we had and sign our contract etc. It was the best day.. We were honored to be chosen and couldn’t wait to meet this little babies mom. 

So the next 6 weeks we were preparing to bring him home. Buying baby clothes, diapers, and everything we needed for a newborn. I bought tshirts saying baby brother, big sisters. It truly felt like a dream. I prayed for that mom and baby daily. Although everything seemed perfect, I felt a small sense of uncertainty. I wanted everything to be right, but I also knew this wasn’t only about us. There was a mom that was making a very difficult decision. I just chose to trust Gods plan and we waited..

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A little back story

June 16, 2023

We have been very hesitant to share our second adoption journey. Maybe because so many people helped with Ruston’s adoption and we feel responsible for funding this one on our own. Maybe because people might not understand why we would jump back into this process after we have our girls and our son. Maybe because the people closest to us saw the very ugly side of adoption and might wonder why we would dive back in? Maybe a combination of those. I talked to someone who has been such a wonderful mentor on this journey and he told me something that helped me decide to open up about this adoption. He asked me “have you ever donated to a cause such as adoption or something else and then regretting your decision? So I thought about it and responded with no. Then he says, then don’t put retraints on how God wants to bless this adoption. if God has put it on your hearts to adopt again, He will make a way, so it’s time to let Him. After I thought about this for months, I have to agree. God has blessed me and Guy with jobs that are helping us save for this next baby, but He has also been blessing us in other ways which has reassured us that we are on the right path. 

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Now to get back to the story. We started our first adoption journey in January 2021. I felt God telling us to wait after we finished our homestudy. I didn’t know what that meant. I didn’t want to wait any longer, but reluctantly I decided to wait. During that time we looked into so many different avenues for adoption. Agencies, consultants, attorneys. We didn’t know what or how to even begin. 6 long months of waiting and we finally felt like we we knew the answer. We signed with someone in august and were ready to bring our baby home by Thanksgiving.
Not so fast… it wasn’t Thanksgiving, or chrsitmas or any of the next upcoming holidays. We submitted on a lot of cases and each time we heard “no”. It felt more and more like a dream to adopt rather than a reality. Fast forward to June 2022 we went on a family beach trip and I had finally come to terms with waiting was our new normal and I needed to live life. At that point we were saving every penny we made and were putting our lives on hold just in case we got a call. So we decided we were done doing that. We needed to make memories with our girls and we would save what we could. So we went to the beach. I was so obsessed with keeping my phone by my side so I didn’t miss a call or email. So that week I decided I was done with that. God wouldn’t let us miss our baby. So I put my phone down. I played in the ocean with the girls all week and only glanced at my phone on occasion…. 

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