Initially, Justin and I had no plans for children early on in our marriage and I was unsure if I wanted children at all.
So, how did we get from being uncertain about kids to a full-throttle pursuit of a child from India?
We were just four months into marriage and what a long few months it was! We had just moved out of Justin’s old apartment where we had been living with his roommate. I was struggling with recently identified medical issues.
Emotions were high. Patience was waning and people, with the best intentions, kept asking the predictable question that all newlyweds are bombarded with, “So, when are you two having kids?”
Inside, I wanted to scream every time. Kids were the last thing on my mind.
But in all of this mess and confusion, God was at work.
Starting in April 2018, Justin and I, separately, but also simultaneously, felt the Lord pulling our hearts toward adoption. This came out of nowhere. While dating, we had briefly talked about adopting a child into our family one day, but that was years down the road. Or so we thought.
For several weeks, we independently and secretly researched India and its adoption process. A love for a country we’d never been to, for a people we’d never met, was budding in our hearts. A delicate seedling that only He could mature.
We didn’t say anything about this to one another; until one night, I could not keep my feelings quiet any longer. Like water when a dam breaks, the words came rushing out of my mouth:
“I don’t really want to have kids.”
“What do you think if we just adopt? Never have biological children.”
“Okay, but honestly, I don’t know if I want children at all right now.”
I liked our life the way it was. Raising our dogs, traveling, and getting to have cool jobs. Life was flexible and fun. Surely, adding a kid to our lifestyle would put a serious damper on it...in my mind at least.
He was speaking so loudly and clearly to me that I could not ignore Him. Everywhere I turned His voice screamed into my ears. The more I tried to explain to Justin why we didn’t need children that night, the more heated our conversation became.
Until, finally. The work that God had been so patiently doing in our hearts overflowed out of our mouths to each other...at the same time.
“We're supposed to adopt from India.”
At that moment, we stopped talking and sat in silence for a while - our secret that had been growing was exposed.
The Lord had been speaking to us individually for weeks and then used each other to confirm this desire. It was a surreal moment.
For the next few months, we examined this news in light of Scripture. We questioned why the Lord would give us such a great desire without being able to practically do anything about it for more than a year? (India requires you to be married for two years before you apply).
But during this time of waiting our heart's only grew more tender and our desire stronger.
We began praying for confirmation and against doubt. We sought wise counsel. We learned
everything we could about India and the adoption process.
Since that April more than one year and a half ago, we have been praying, reading, talking, learning, preparing, planning and saving money. We are FINALLY ready to let the world in on our little secret.
Here it is:
WE ARE ADOPTING FROM INDIA and have already begun the official process! :)
Our first step is to complete our home study which we started back in August. After our second wedding anniversary in December, our agency will submit our finalized home study to the Indian adoption authority for approval. Three cheers for paperwork!
We are like kids on Christmas morning.
Like any new adventure, there are many unanswered questions and anxieties. We covet your encouragement. But we go in confidence, trusting in the Lord and His will for our life and our future child’s.
This is your formal invitation to join us on this journey. Pray for us. Pray for our baby. Pray for his biological mom and dad. Pray for his orphanage and his caretakers. Pray for India.
This little love is going to need a community, so we want to keep you up-to-date throughout the process. We welcome you to be a part of what God is doing!
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