We have known each other for a little under 10 years. Ever since we started dating, through engagement, and in the early dreaming years of marriage, we always imagined we would adopt someday. We didn’t know it’d look like it does, but we did know God had a perfect plan in His perfect timing.
After getting married, our “life plan” included children in about 5 years, anticipating natural children first, then adopting one or two more. Five years in and the timing wasn’t right. So we waited, trusting the Lord to show us when He wanted us to start a family.
After moving to Florida, we landed back in Grapeland, Texas at Frontier Camp in July 2017. We had strong Christian community, “village” support, and our parents & siblings nearby that we knew would all be such a gift in raising our family. With that in mind, we began pursuing a growing family, seeking both natural and adopted children. We walked forward with open-hands, allowing the Lord to lead us where He may. We knocked on the doors, trusting Him to open and close them, pointing us towards opportunities He wanted us to take.
In January 2018, we mentioned to the Executive Director of Frontier Camp that we were interested in adopting someday. He happened to know of some girls who were in need of a forever home. He connected us to the right people, and in early March, we met the girls for the first time. We both knew right away that we couldn’t not move forward in pursuit of an adoption, but also realizing that we might move forward and nothing may come of it. In this, we trusted the Lord. Psalm 37:3 became a guiding verse for us.
Trust in the Lord and do good;
dwell in the land and cultivate faithfulness.
We continued to hang out with the girls roughly twice a month. In June 2018, we officially began the application process at Aggieland Pregnancy Outreach for this “identified adoption.” (“Identified” adoption simply means what it sounds like: our children were already identified prior to beginning the process, as opposed to what the large majority of adoptive families pursue, where they don’t know a specific child before they begin the process.)
We gathered all the things: medical exams, tax statements, financial records, birth certificates, CPR certifications, dog vaccinations, a map and pictures of our house. We attended a training hosted by the agency. We conducted our state-mandated overnight visits with the girls.
September 21, 2018 we met with all the involved parties and everyone agreed that the time was right to tell the girls. We devised a plan to ask the girls if we could adopt them, giving them some “choice.” We wrote them each a letter asking them if we could, and went to meet them. That night, we presented the letters and, to our relief, they both said yes! (We genuinely expected some mixed feelings. We were so relieved they both eagerly said yes!!!)
A little over a week later, September 30, the girls were placed with us. We are a little over 7 weeks in at this time, and it is hard to describe how things are going. On the one hand, they are going so, so well. This HUGE life change has been so organic and natural and not felt like that big of a change at all because it’s just “right” and it just makes sense for us. On the other hand, there are hard, challenging, and frustrating moments. This HUGE life change has altered so much of our routines and what we prioritize and increased our level of responsibility in every area of life. It has challenged us to lean into the Lord more than we ever have had to, and to turn for Christ in need of patience, love, grace, and mercy. I should repeat patience. It’s worth repeating.
We are looking forward to the rest of our lives with these girls. As we discuss the Gospel with them, we help them connect the parallel that just like Christ will always love them and always forgive them, we will always love them and forgive them. We are challenged freshly with what it means to choose love and what it means to choose forgiveness every time, no matter what. It helps us realize, too, how much we’re loved and how often we’re forgiven. The Lord has worked massively in our lives through the last 11 months, shifting our perspective in how we view the Gospel, how we receive it, and how we share it. We know He will continue to do so the rest of our lives.
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