Every faith family Joseph and I have been a part of has displayed the beauty of adoption for us. The church where I grew up was actively engaged with orphanages in Ukraine; there was even a girl in my class who had been adopted from there. The church I attended while in college had many families who had adopted from Asia and Africa, including many of our pastors. In the first church we attended as a married couple, we helped a family fundraise to bring home two special needs daughters from China. Over and over again, we saw God bringing hope to a broken situation by means of adoption, but specifically international adoption. We were not as aware of domestic adoption until a family crisis rocked our world in 2015.
We received the call early one February morning, a little over a year after being married. Joseph’s teenage sister who was three-months pregnant had been told by her boyfriend that if she wanted their relationship to work, she had to get an abortion. She chose her baby’s life and left that same day. She was stranded with no car and nowhere to go, so we immediately jumped in our car and headed to pick her up. We weren’t sure what we were going to do when we got there, but we knew God would give the three of us wisdom.
After much prayer and discussion, we invited Joseph’s sister to live with us. Those four months were some of the hardest of our lives, but they also taught us so much about God and His love for the most vulnerable.
Over the next two months, I took his sister to her medical appointments and to job interviews. There was a wonderful Christian pregnancy resource center in our area that helped us walk through the process of her becoming a parent. They provided free parenting classes, information about adoption, baby clothes and supplies, and guidance on paperwork such as WIC and Medicaid. It was then that my eyes were opened to the hardship these mothers face when they have an unexpected pregnancy, but my eyes were also opened to their courage.
I had always been pro-life, but walking through this process with his sister made me realize that we must value all lives in this process. As one Lifeline article puts it, “We must strive to be consistent in living like Christ and be more than pro-birth only. We must be truly pro-LIFE.” I realized that the church must be there not only for the child, but also for the mother. We must not only fight for the pregnancy and the birth, but for adoption plans or familial support.
Our hearts were burdened as we walked through the process with his sister, loving her the best we could and thankful for the ways our church family loved her. And our hearts broke when she lost her baby at twenty weeks. We sat by her hospital bed, wept with her, cared for her, and we were still amazed at the incredible courage and faith she displayed as she held her daughter for those few minutes.
Those moments with Alice Noelle impacted our journey forever.
After seeing what these mothers go through, we know that it takes more than a persuasive argument for them to choose to parent or to make an adoption plan. They need to know that we are pro-baby and pro-mother. They need to know that just like their baby is valuable because he or she is made in God’s image, she is valuable because she, too, is an image bearer. It was then we knew we wanted to serve this vulnerable population—one that is often told that their value will decrease if they choose to keep their baby. A population who feels like there is no hope—one that feels shame from their family, culture, and sometimes even from the church.
That is why we are choosing to adopt domestically through Lifeline. Their birth mother ministry is incredible. The entire process is mother-centered; they want her to feel loved, valued, and prepared whether they choose to parent or make an adoption plan. They provide transportation to medical appointments, counseling, and so much more; but most importantly, they provide the love of Christ.
And that is our ultimate motivation for adopting. We have received the love of God through adoption! Romans 8:15 says, “For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, ‘Abba! Father!’” We are adopting because God has adopted us. We were a people hopeless, afraid, and vulnerable, but God became our Father! We can cry out to the God of the universe knowing He will answer because we are His sons and daughters!
We are adopting domestically so that a mother can choose life not only for her child, but also eternal life through Christ Jesus our Lord. Would you partner with us in this adoption journey by, first and formost, praying for us, the birth mother, and our future child?
Would you also consider giving financially to help us cover the cost of the adoption process (around $33,000) which includes the cost of home study, matching, placement, and legal fees? We have been awarded a $3,000 matching grant from AIM5 Adoption Fund, administered by Lifesong for Orphans. That means when you give to us through Lifesong, your donation will be matched!
STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Broderick 08780”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.
Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.
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