Roughly nine years ago, we were sitting in church. On this particular day it was Sanctity of Life Sunday. Our pastor’s sermon was on adoption. At this time, we were engaged and to be married in early summer. The topic of adoption was laid on both of our hearts. We talked about it that day and many other days after that. We knew early on that God would lead us on the journey of adoption.
After the wedding bells and the first couple years of marriage, we were ready to start our family. We didn’t know what we were in for. After a year of trying, we chose to seek medical help. We were referred to a Fertility Specialist. After a round of In Vitro Fertilization, we became pregnant with twins. We were beyond happy. After 25 weeks of gestation, something went wrong. We still don’t know what happened, but our daughters Selah and Brynn came early. Selah weighing 1lb 14oz and Brynn weighing 1lb 12oz. The next 127 days in the NICU would test us physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. However, we serve a mighty God who takes care of all our needs. Our marriage grew stronger in this time, but the thought of adoption seemed to be put at a pause.
Due to our girls being born early, both have multiple medical issues. We chose for Kelsey to stay home to take care of our girls and all their appointments, therapies and other medical needs. This impacted us financially, but God always provided what we needed.
Since we had success with IVF and we had three embryos that remained, we attempted but were unsuccessful. Due to our daughters’ medical needs, we felt our family was complete. But God laughed.
Fast forward to late Fall of 2019. Ben had it laid on his heart to begin looking up information on adoption; however he didn’t know how to bring it up to Kelsey. So he prayed! At the end of December, Ben felt the nudge to talk to Kelsey. Little did he know that it had also been laid on Kelsey’s heart. On December 31st, as we watched the New Year’s ball drop, we began filling out applications to begin our adoption journey.
We know this is a huge financial undertaking especially since Kelsey is still at home with our girls. But to be honest, we are not worried about the financial costs. This is God’s plan, and He has shown us that He always provides when it’s His will.
Our adoption could cost anywhere from $35,000-$45,000 depending on where we are matched with an expecting birth mother. These costs include home study, background checks, adoption consultants, lawyer/agency fees, birth mother expenses, and travel expenses. We have applied to many agencies/ attorneys within several states. We have also applied to many organizations that provide grants to adopting families, and we are brainstorming new fundraising ideas (due to COVID-19 this has been a bit more difficult).
We were blessed to have received a matching grant through Lifesong for Orphans and the ability to use their crowdfunding resources. The first $5,000 will be matched by Lifesong and every donation made through Lifesong towards our adoption is tax deductible.
Thank you for taking the time to get to know our journey. We look forward to what God has in store for our future and continuing to share our journey with you. If you cannot give financially, we would love to have you join us with prayers.
STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Barton 09077”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.
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