Why do we want to adopt when we are comfortable with the way we are? Why would we want to do this when we already have three beautiful biological children? Why don’t we want to have our fourth child the way we had our first three? These are all the questions we have worked through and we are excited to share with others. The answer to all of these questions boils down to our faith in God. We see adoption as an expression of Christian faith being played out practically. Adoption is the Gospel.
God adopted us into His family when we were still sinners. 1 John 3:1 says “See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are.” God has loved us so much, we have been able to reflect this love (imperfectly) to our children and we want to give this love to our fourth child.
There are children in the world hurting, scared, and alone. We have a family and we want to open our arms to a child to be one of us. We want to change the life for one child by helping him heal, giving him safety, and giving him a family of his own. This child, our son is made in the image of God - he is loved by God and God commands us as His people to love our child, the once fatherless into a family where he will have an earthly father and be taught about his heavenly Father. We want to stand up for our son, wherever he is- to love him, pray for him, take him in our arms and show him love that is selfless and reflects God’s love for us.
When we think of one of our biological children being in a situation where they are being hurt, forgotten, abandoned, neglected, and fearful - it hurts us to our core. We want to step in and stop it immediately. We want to protect them and help them the best way we can. We want to do this for all children, not just our biological children. However, we know it is unrealistic to be able to do this for every child in the world - that idea is so daunting it is paralyzing. But when we stopped to really ask, “Okay, if we can’t help them all, then what can we realistically do?” The answer was clear: “adopt.”
Leigh Anne’s personal story helps explain another layer of why we feel called to adopt:
“I was raised by my Mother and I have never met my biological father. I had many questions and doubts about my identity and not understanding why my earthly father didn’t want me. But God, in His mercy, placed people in my life to speak truth to me about who I was and my value. My value was in Christ and I was God’s daughter. I am an heir to the King of all creation! My value, worth, and identity did not come from my absent father, but from my omnipresent Heavenly Father.”
We know our son will most likely have questions like these, and we long to pour into him the truths that were poured into Leigh Anne to help her heal from the brokenness in her life. God loves us and that He chose us to be His children. We have infinite worth, because God loved us so much that He gave His one and only Son to die in our place so that we could be adopted into His family. He sacrificed so much for us. These beautiful truths are what we want to pour into all of our children and we know that through the beautifully broken picture of adoption, we will be able to show this first hand to all four of our children and those who walk alongside us in life.
We have helped with a few of our friend’s adoptions financially, as well as serving on a committee at church to help bring awareness to our church about the needs of the fatherless and what others can do to help. But we have felt that this wasn’t enough, we want to do more, we can do more, and we are called to do more. James 1:27 says “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.” We want to be obedient to God and the call to look after orphans in their distress.
We know that this unmarked territory for our family will not be easy, it will be daunting at times and it will not be a perfect picture. But God is sovereign and faithful. We know He will provide all that we need to raise our children in a way that pleases and honors Him. As David Platt said, “One of the clearest displays of the gospel in this life is when redeemed men and women extend a hand of mercy to children in need and bring them into their families.” Above all, we want our lives to glorify God, and we can think of no better way to display God’s glory than to mirror God the Father as an adoptive parent in our family. This is our hope, prayer, and mission.
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