The Friesen Family Adoption Story

Natalie Friesen Ferndale, Washington

Natalie first became interested in adoption in 5th grade when she read the book, The Family Nobody Wanted about a couple that adopted several special needs children from around the world. She decided then that she would adopt 20!

Well, as a just married couple with a little more reality, we decided that 20 was a little ambitious for us, but we would start with getting licensed as foster/adopt parents in our state. Older children are harder to place, so we planned to adopt a few older children as we were older ourselves. But, none of the 17 children we fostered ended up becoming part of our permanent family. God, however, did bless us with the very special gift of our biological daughter in 2012.

Two years later, we began to re-visit the idea of adoption as we really wanted a sibling for our daughter. We began filling out the paperwork to be re-licensed as foster/adopt parents in our state. Foster/adopting is an emotional roller coaster and we found we just weren't ready to put ourselves or our daughter through it again. We had no peace about continuing down this road, so, we began praying and waiting on God to see if there was some other direction he would take us. Within a few days, Natalie was reading up on other domestic and international adoptions when she learned that we could adopt somewhat independently (which was considerably less expensive) from Peru as Bruce is a Peruvian citizen. We were both very excited at the idea of getting to go back “home” to adopt from the country we met in and where Bruce grew up. We also felt like it was something that we could do financially, so we began the process in April of 2014. In September 2015, Peru officially accepted us as adoptive parents for one girl or a brother and sister sibling set between the ages of 0-3! Our daughter can't wait for her sibling/s to get here! We are so looking forward to the day we all get to meet and complete our family.

Since being accepted, we have learned several things. The main two being:

1.) The time between being approved and actually being matched with a child can take a long time – 15 months so far and still waiting!

2.) You actually can't adopt independently any more. We could write a page on how all that came about, but we did join a Peru placement agency in October 2016. We are very happy with this agency and their help, but it tripled what we thought we would need to finish our adoption. The difference now is that, when we started our Peru adoption journey, we would have thought we would never have enough money to adopt with an agency and might have given up, but now we have peace and faith that our God who started us on this journey, is going to see us through.

So far, we have covered/will be covering the first $20,000 of our adoption through personal funds, employer benefits and fundraising. We recently received a $2,000 matching grant from Lifesong that will go towards the additional $25,000 we need to cover remaining agency fees, airline tickets and then housing, transportation and child fees (visas, medical exams, etc.) in Peru where we will be for 6 weeks while the adoption process there goes through. We are also partnered with  Gobena coffee company from which we receive 50% of any sales that are purchased in connection to us. If you are able to give in any way towards our remaining need, we would be very grateful.  We so look forward to finding our who our daughter/son is and getting to bring the rest of our family home!

Thank you!

Bruce, Natalie and Ellie Friesen

  1. To donate by buying coffee, click on the following link: https://my.gobena.org/stories/friesen-adoption-fund/?id=127

  2. The first $2,000 in direct donations will be doubled by a $2,000 matching grant from Lifesong!

  3. Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  4. Checks should be payable to “Lifesong for Orphans.” In the memo, note “Friesen 6478”to assure it goes to our account. Please mail to:  Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

  5. In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to the named non-profit organization. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.

    Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request. Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization.


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Friesen 6478”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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Natalie first became interested in adoption in 5th grade when she read the book, The Family Nobody Wanted about a couple that adopted several special needs children from around the world. She decided then that she would adopt 20!

Well, as a just married couple with a little more reality, we decided that 20 was a little ambitious for us, but we would start with getting licensed as foster/adopt parents in our state. Older children are harder to place, so we planned to adopt a few older children as we were older ourselves. But, none of the 17 children we fostered ended up becoming part of our permanent family. God, however, did bless us with the very special gift of our biological daughter in 2012.

Two years later, we began to re-visit the idea of adoption as we really wanted a sibling for our daughter. We began filling out the paperwork to be re-licensed as foster/adopt parents in our state. Foster/adopting is an emotional roller coaster and we found we just weren't ready to put ourselves or our daughter through it again. We had no peace about continuing down this road, so, we began praying and waiting on God to see if there was some other direction he would take us. Within a few days, Natalie was reading up on other domestic and international adoptions when she learned that we could adopt somewhat independently (which was considerably less expensive) from Peru as Bruce is a Peruvian citizen. We were both very excited at the idea of getting to go back “home” to adopt from the country we met in and where Bruce grew up. We also felt like it was something that we could do financially, so we began the process in April of 2014. In September 2015, Peru officially accepted us as adoptive parents for one girl or a brother and sister sibling set between the ages of 0-3! Our daughter can't wait for her sibling/s to get here! We are so looking forward to the day we all get to meet and complete our family.

Since being accepted, we have learned several things. The main two being:

1.) The time between being approved and actually being matched with a child can take a long time – 15 months so far and still waiting!

2.) You actually can't adopt independently any more. We could write a page on how all that came about, but we did join a Peru placement agency in October 2016. We are very happy with this agency and their help, but it tripled what we thought we would need to finish our adoption. The difference now is that, when we started our Peru adoption journey, we would have thought we would never have enough money to adopt with an agency and might have given up, but now we have peace and faith that our God who started us on this journey, is going to see us through.

So far, we have covered/will be covering the first $20,000 of our adoption through personal funds, employer benefits and fundraising. We recently received a $2,000 matching grant from Lifesong that will go towards the additional $25,000 we need to cover remaining agency fees, airline tickets and then housing, transportation and child fees (visas, medical exams, etc.) in Peru where we will be for 6 weeks while the adoption process there goes through. We are also partnered with  Gobena coffee company from which we receive 50% of any sales that are purchased in connection to us. If you are able to give in any way towards our remaining need, we would be very grateful.  We so look forward to finding our who our daughter/son is and getting to bring the rest of our family home!

Thank you!

Bruce, Natalie and Ellie Friesen

  1. To donate by buying coffee, click on the following link: https://my.gobena.org/stories/friesen-adoption-fund/?id=127

  2. The first $2,000 in direct donations will be doubled by a $2,000 matching grant from Lifesong!

  3. Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  4. Checks should be payable to “Lifesong for Orphans.” In the memo, note “Friesen 6478”to assure it goes to our account. Please mail to:  Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

  5. In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to the named non-profit organization. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.

    Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request. Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization.


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Friesen 6478”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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