Our journey to parenthood has been a long and painful one. In the end, the answer to all the difficult questions was simple. We are parents who want children, and there are children who need parents. Adopting just makes sense.
We were married in the fall of 2005 and after two years of strengthening our relationship, we decided we were ready to have children. However, this did not come easily. We would experience over a decade of failed fertility treatments, disappointment and loss.
Adoption was something that was always at the back of our minds. Peter had been adopted at birth along with his twin sister. They knew the beauty of being raised by wonderful Christian parents who taught them that their birth mom had loved them enough to allow another family to raise them, when she wasn’t able to do it herself.
When we applied to a local adoption agency in 2016, we were quickly rejected because Peter was in grad school full-time and Mindy was still looking for full-time work after our move for school. Our income on paper looked dismal.
We were so disappointed that money was the only thing keeping us from adopting. This lit a fire under Mindy that would lead her to start a company called Honeycomb Hope that would help other families raise money for their adoptions. The very first family that applied for a fundraiser was adopting a teenager that they had hosted from Ukraine. We had never heard of orphan hosting before and couldn’t believe this was a possibility!
We looked through a photo listing for children in Ukraine who needed summer host families. A 10-year-old brother and his 6-year-old sister stood out to us, and we inquired about them. We were surprised to find out that they also had a 15- year-old sister. Since we knew that we would only host children whom we would consider adopting, we decided to bring all three of them home this summer to see how it went.
In the meantime, we also learned that there were boy/girl twin 3-year-old siblings back in Ukraine who were too young to be hosted. Another surprise!
The children were with us for ten weeks this summer, and it is an understatement to say that our time together was life changing. We absolutely fell in love with them. They fit into our family structure very well and thrived while they were here.
Our goals were simple: to show them the love of Jesus and to give them the simple joys of childhood that they had missed out on: riding bikes, swimming, playing games and laughing together. We relieved the pressure of “mother” from the teenager and just let her be a child for the first time in her life. We prayed with them before bed, read them stories, and hugged them goodnight.
When they arrived, we were very much two family units and ten weeks later, it felt like we were putting our own children back on an airplane. We decided not to make any decisions about adoption until they left our home as we needed the quiet to process what had just happened. We immediately felt the impact of their absence.
Many children have come and gone from our lives. Mindy has been a nanny for many years, cared for babies while a mom recovered from surgery, and we lost our own sweet babies in the womb. This goodbye was different, and we knew almost immediately that we wanted them back. We will fight for them no matter what it takes and have said yes to all five of the sibling group.
Looking back, we can see God’s hand in all of this: how Mindy cared for so many, including being the nanny of a large sibling group and how Peter’s heart has grown to feel the Father heart of God towards orphaned children.
It is an exciting time, to be able to look back and see how God was working, even through the loss and grief and the days when we didn’t understand why it was so hard to have children. During the many nights we spent crying and praying, God knew the children he had for us all along.
We know that the road will not be easy, but we also know that this is the calling that God has for us, and we could not be more happy to welcome these children into our family forever.
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