Cottle Family Adoption – Adding to our crazy, loud, wonderful family

Aimee Cottle
Aimee Cottle Indianapolis, Indiana

 

There is so much we could tell you about the path that led us here. All the conversations. Prayers. Nudges. Gut checks. Fear. Leaps.

We’ve both felt like adoption was something we were always supposed to do. Separately, at young ages, we both had experiences when friends would need a place to stay and our parents modeled the generosity of opening their homes and their family to those in need around us.

We don’t know why God called us to this but we believe without a doubt that it is written that our next child will be created for us, but not by us.

This process has not been an easy one. Even as we look at our financial information, there is no logical way that we should be able to adopt a child any time soon. However, in early November our church was going through a sermon series titled, “Greater Things”. Our pastor talked about being generous and honoring God with whatever we have. It hit us: God is calling us to do this great, amazing, terrifying thing. We need to bring Him what we have, even if we feel like it isn’t enough and He promises to, “Pour out a blessing so great you won’t have enough room to take it in! Try It! Put me to the Test!” – Malachi 3:10 So that is what we’re doing: stepping out in faith step because this child’s story depends on it. Our story depends on it.

Our family has consistently inspired us and motivated us to keep going. It feels almost impossible to adequately describe how important and wonderful they are. We have a very large, supportive family on both sides. It gets loud and crazy and we wouldn’t trade it for anything. Birthdays, holidays and special occasions always feel extra special because we are surrounded by 20+ people who love and support us. We spend almost every day with Aimee’s sisters and their families. They are truly our village. In fact, this year, we all moved to the same street so our kids could grow up together. It really feels like our son has 4 brothers and sisters because his cousins are so close to him. And we know that adding a child to this family through adoption will paint a completely new and beautiful picture of what love really is.

Most days it feels like we are free falling — not exactly sure what’s waiting for us when we land. But we know we’re exactly where we are supposed to be. We are so excited to see how God grows our family and our faith through this adventure.

While this journey is filled with an endless list of unknowns, what we do know is this: We can’t wait to meet the soul that will join our family next.

We’re thankful to have been awarded a $2500 matching grant from Hands of Hope Adoption Fund, administered by Lifesong for Orphans. That means for every $1 you donate, they will match it up to $2500!

Thank you for considering giving to our adoption. We know God’s plans are good and that He is connecting dots even when we can’t see it. We are forever grateful that you are choosing to be part of our story.


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Cottle 09078”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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 of  $20,000
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My Story

 

There is so much we could tell you about the path that led us here. All the conversations. Prayers. Nudges. Gut checks. Fear. Leaps.

We’ve both felt like adoption was something we were always supposed to do. Separately, at young ages, we both had experiences when friends would need a place to stay and our parents modeled the generosity of opening their homes and their family to those in need around us.

We don’t know why God called us to this but we believe without a doubt that it is written that our next child will be created for us, but not by us.

This process has not been an easy one. Even as we look at our financial information, there is no logical way that we should be able to adopt a child any time soon. However, in early November our church was going through a sermon series titled, “Greater Things”. Our pastor talked about being generous and honoring God with whatever we have. It hit us: God is calling us to do this great, amazing, terrifying thing. We need to bring Him what we have, even if we feel like it isn’t enough and He promises to, “Pour out a blessing so great you won’t have enough room to take it in! Try It! Put me to the Test!” – Malachi 3:10 So that is what we’re doing: stepping out in faith step because this child’s story depends on it. Our story depends on it.

Our family has consistently inspired us and motivated us to keep going. It feels almost impossible to adequately describe how important and wonderful they are. We have a very large, supportive family on both sides. It gets loud and crazy and we wouldn’t trade it for anything. Birthdays, holidays and special occasions always feel extra special because we are surrounded by 20+ people who love and support us. We spend almost every day with Aimee’s sisters and their families. They are truly our village. In fact, this year, we all moved to the same street so our kids could grow up together. It really feels like our son has 4 brothers and sisters because his cousins are so close to him. And we know that adding a child to this family through adoption will paint a completely new and beautiful picture of what love really is.

Most days it feels like we are free falling — not exactly sure what’s waiting for us when we land. But we know we’re exactly where we are supposed to be. We are so excited to see how God grows our family and our faith through this adventure.

While this journey is filled with an endless list of unknowns, what we do know is this: We can’t wait to meet the soul that will join our family next.

We’re thankful to have been awarded a $2500 matching grant from Hands of Hope Adoption Fund, administered by Lifesong for Orphans. That means for every $1 you donate, they will match it up to $2500!

Thank you for considering giving to our adoption. We know God’s plans are good and that He is connecting dots even when we can’t see it. We are forever grateful that you are choosing to be part of our story.


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Cottle 09078”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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Frozen in the Wilderness

July 12, 2020

We are frozen … 

It’s only been 8 months and I realize in the scheme of life, and especially adoption, that is nothing. People wait years for their child. But right now, here on day 245, we are tired. The only way to describe it is that it feels like we are in the middle of a dark wilderness. 

Too far in to turn around. And too far away to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

We barely talk about it. We barely think about it. Because it hurts too much. Every day when I get our daily reminder to pray for the adoption, I get a pit in my stomach. And then the questions flood my mind. What are we doing wrong? Is God trying to tell us we’re on the wrong path? Maybe we should just have another biological child … maybe foster care? There are a lot of babies out there who need a home. Maybe we should apply to more agencies? Is this because we are so terrible with money? God clearly doesn’t trust us to parent another child.  These are just a few of the thoughts that permeate my brain regularly. Oh, and then there are the “shoulds”. We should be starting a fundraiser. Or 5. We should be saving more and spending less. We should sell something. Make something. DO SOMETHING. But we don’t … 

We just sit here. Frozen. 

Literally frozen. In fact, really the only person that reminds us that we are adopting is our niece, Lorelai. She talks about it all the time. She wants to babysit. And help us with “her” room. (She obviously wants it to be a girl.) Every time she asks when we are going to get a baby, part of me exhales. In a good way. Because I feel like God is using her as our connection to this every changing story. Reminding us that even though it doesn’t feel like it, we are on our way to meet our next child. We are right where He wants us to be. 

But still, I didn’t expect it to feel like this. I’m a very ambitious and dedicated person. When I set my mind to do something … I do it. But here’s the thing about this calling: I didn’t set my mind to this. God did. And so sometimes, I feel like this is His thing and I’m just here to help carry it across the finish line. 

What are we supposed to be doing right now? 

For whatever reason, we don’t feel like we’re supposed to apply to more agencies. (We are currently active with 5.) Unfortunately, I think we know what we are supposed to be doing: We are just supposed to wait. And waiting – this kind of waiting – feels agonizing.  And so, because I can’t really do much of anything else, I’m going to write. I’m going to force myself to confront what I’m feeling and speak it outoud. To dream about the possibility again. To open my heart, even ever so slightly. 

And we are going to continue taking steps of faith. Like being vulnerable about how this part of the journey feels. And setting up that garage sale like we’ve been saying we were going to do for months. And asking for prayers and support from all of you. Because that’s all we can do. 

So please pray.

Pray for us to stay connected – to this story and to this calling and to each other. Pray for us to have wisdom and discernment. And for God to show up. We need Him to show up. Because right now, in the midst of the wilderness, this doesn’t seem like it’s going to happen for us … 

Someday, I just know we are going to be snuggled on the couch, with our next child in our arms and all of this is going to make sense. And that moment will be perfect and beautiful. But in that moment, I don’t want to forget this one. Because this moment – this part of our story – is just as important … 

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$2,000

Offline Donation

Sep 4, 2020

$50

Cheryl

Aug 23, 2020

“Praying for you all during this journey. Sending love, Cheryl& Lee Cornell”

$50

Sara

Aug 5, 2020

“May God bless you with a little bundle of joy. Love the Bridgeman/Coleman Family”

$50

Adam

Jul 24, 2020

$100

Hidden

Jul 13, 2020

“Waiting is the hardest, even though it feels like it should be the easiest part. The beauty of it is that God is weaving your lives together, and when those threads meet it will be at the exact right time 💕 even if it would just be easier if he would just freakin tell you about it 😘 Love you guys, G”

$50

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Jun 11, 2020

$100

Offline Donation

Jun 4, 2020

$50

Offline Donation

Jun 2, 2020

$50

Offline Donation

May 29, 2020

$50

Lori

May 21, 2020

$200

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May 19, 2020

“We are so excited and happy for your family. May God bless you as you continue through this journey. We are praying for you”

$100

Kari

May 19, 2020

“We know your mom through church and our son Carson was blessed to have her as his preschool teacher. What a blessing you and your family will be to this child! We too have been through the adoption journey and will be praying for you all! ♥️”

$50

Britt

May 19, 2020

“Adoption will forever hold a piece of my heart after what I experienced. Praying for you all and so excited for what is to come!!”

$25

Cheri

May 19, 2020

“We can’t give a lot but wanted to contribute to your blessing. I love you seeing your beautiful family on FB.”

$20

Desiree

May 19, 2020

“Aimee and family, I went to college with your parents. I have enjoyed watching there family via Facebook. I adopted my oldest son and I thank God for the opportunity and blessing to be his mother. I pray God blesses you. Desiree”

$75

Darl and Candi

May 19, 2020

“Praying for you!”

$100

Hidden

May 19, 2020

“We are so happy for you. May your lives be filled with love as you bring this little one into your home.”

$50

Brittany

May 19, 2020

“Love y’all so much. Can’t wait for this little one to join our big crazy family!”

$25

Lizzie

May 19, 2020