Cheesman Family Adoption

Emily Cheesman
Emily Cheesman Union, Maine

Dear Family and Friends,  We have some exciting news: we are adopting! We have always loved children and even before we started having children, we talked about adopting some day.  After our four children were born we started discussing the idea that if we were to add another child to our family, we wanted it to be through adoption. Our goal in adoption is to help a precious child of God find a home and loving family to call their own. The possibility of adopting a child has been something in our hearts and something that we have been praying about for a while now. However, it was not until the summer of 2016, when we decided to host a 10 year old boy from Kyrgyzstan.  Our children were excited about this decision, and we spent a few months preparing to bring a child from another culture and different part of the world into our home. We started by finding Kyrgyzstan on a map, studying the culture, learning simple Russian phrases and educating ourselves on how to be a “host” family to this young boy.  We are so thankful we made this life changing decision to host this child! This was eye opening for our entire family and helped us all to understand the bigger picture and to see how much we are blessed with and how much we take for granted! We spent a wonderful 6 weeks with this boy and we were able to show him the love of a mom and dad and siblings and what it was like to be part of a family.  He had never experienced this. At the end of the summer, it was difficult to say good bye, and we did not feel complete after he left. We knew that we wanted him to be part of our family for good.  After much discussion and prayer as a family, we feel that adopting this boy is the right step for our family. He is currently living in an orphanage in Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan and we want to bring him home to be part of our family. The biggest challenge we currently face is finding the finances to make this happen. The estimated total cost for the adoption is $32,000, which is beyond our means, however, we are trusting God to help us achieve this goal. We ask that you would consider helping us in whatever way you are able. Your donations, prayers, and support and encouragement are greatly appreciated.  We are so grateful for this opportunity to adopt a child and we thank you for supporting us in our journey.  Aaron and Emily


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Cheesman 6619”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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My Story

Dear Family and Friends,  We have some exciting news: we are adopting! We have always loved children and even before we started having children, we talked about adopting some day.  After our four children were born we started discussing the idea that if we were to add another child to our family, we wanted it to be through adoption. Our goal in adoption is to help a precious child of God find a home and loving family to call their own. The possibility of adopting a child has been something in our hearts and something that we have been praying about for a while now. However, it was not until the summer of 2016, when we decided to host a 10 year old boy from Kyrgyzstan.  Our children were excited about this decision, and we spent a few months preparing to bring a child from another culture and different part of the world into our home. We started by finding Kyrgyzstan on a map, studying the culture, learning simple Russian phrases and educating ourselves on how to be a “host” family to this young boy.  We are so thankful we made this life changing decision to host this child! This was eye opening for our entire family and helped us all to understand the bigger picture and to see how much we are blessed with and how much we take for granted! We spent a wonderful 6 weeks with this boy and we were able to show him the love of a mom and dad and siblings and what it was like to be part of a family.  He had never experienced this. At the end of the summer, it was difficult to say good bye, and we did not feel complete after he left. We knew that we wanted him to be part of our family for good.  After much discussion and prayer as a family, we feel that adopting this boy is the right step for our family. He is currently living in an orphanage in Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan and we want to bring him home to be part of our family. The biggest challenge we currently face is finding the finances to make this happen. The estimated total cost for the adoption is $32,000, which is beyond our means, however, we are trusting God to help us achieve this goal. We ask that you would consider helping us in whatever way you are able. Your donations, prayers, and support and encouragement are greatly appreciated.  We are so grateful for this opportunity to adopt a child and we thank you for supporting us in our journey.  Aaron and Emily


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Cheesman 6619”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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God’s Timing

April 28, 2017

     It is hard to believe it has been over three months since we had to say good-bye to Dima at JFK, after hosting him for the holidays.  This time has not been easy. The waiting is hard and the daily struggle to remember to wait the “right” way and not the “wrong” way is real! We are trusting in God’s timing, yet at the same time have a sense of urgency to bring our precious boy home. There are times when our fears and doubt seem to outweigh our trust that God is in control.

     The most difficult part about this “waiting” period is not knowing how long we have to wait? Our Dossier was registered in Kyrgyzstan in January, Dima’s parental rights were relinquished and he is on the adoption date base.  These are all signs of our adoption progressing and for this we are thankful. The hard part is that the next step is to receive our referral date and we cannot control that. We have not been able to talk to Dima since we dropped him off at JFK in January. We have so many questions and we want answers. Is he hungry? Is he cold? Is he being bullied? Is he being hurt? Does he know how much we love him and miss him? Does he really know that we have not forgotten about him?

     When we said good-bye to Dima in January, we hoped that we would be traveling to Kyrgyzstan close behind him.  A trip to Kyrgyzstan during March was our hope and our plan. We prayed continually for good news.  March arrived and to our disappointment our referral date still had not.  We felt discouraged and doubtful, but it was not long before God made his timing clear to us.  In the very beginning of March, my Dad became very sick. He was diagnosed with serious pneumonia in both of his lungs and was admitted into the hospital. Within 24 hours, he had taken a scary turn for the worse and was placed on a ventilator. He needed this machine to breathe for him and was sedated as his body tried to fight off this pneumonia. His condition was not improving and more complications arose and it became necessary for him to be life-flighted to a bigger hospital.  He spent the next 6 weeks in ICU, then was transferred to acute rehabilitation and finally moved home with home health care, physical therapy and occupational therapy. During these weeks, I spent as much time with my Dad as I could.  I was thankful to be able to be with my family during this time, and quickly realized that I was where I needed to be. I thanked God that I was not in Kyrgyzstan. God didn’t allow me to see the exact timing of his plan in January, but He made it clear to me at the right time!  

     It is now April, and the warmth and promises of springtime have finally arrived here in Maine. We had a wonderful Easter celebrating our many blessings this year. My Dad is home and doing very well. His doctors are pleased with his progress and although they might not be able to explain why my he pulled through his sickness so well, we can! God’s plan is always perfect. God does answer prayers. God does show up when we least expect it and gives us so much more than we ever believed possible.

     During this adoption journey, the biggest lesson we are learning is that God’s timing is perfect. Our children pray for their brother to be able to come home soon. Like their parents, they too want some concrete answers! I wish I could make this waiting time easier for them, but what I can do is promise them that God is always on time. As the days pass, it seems that the next step for us might be “hosting” Dima again for 6-8 weeks during the summer. If this turns out to be necessary, we hope that we would receive our referral date during the summer and be able to travel to Kyrgyzstan for our bonding trip in either late summer or early fall.  Although this is a longer process than we initially anticipated, it will allow us to enjoy spending the summer with Dima. We do not want to lose this time with him. It seems that there are times in life when we might give up if we knew how long something was going to take, or how hard something was going to prove to be. Instead of giving up, God wants us to trust him and find hope and allow Him to work on our problems.

     Please continue to pray for our family as we try to wait with patience. Thank you to all of you that have encouraged our family through donations, prayers and support. We appreciate all of you. Please pray that God will continue to provide the necessary funds as we continue to move forward with selling the remainder of our adoption t-shirts and fundraising. Falling in love with this little boy has changed our lives for the better and we are counting down the days until we can all be back together as a family.  Until then, we are choosing to be thankful for new beginnings, lessons taught, and a renewed sense of hope as we continue this journey.

Emily and Aaron  

 

 

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Saying Good-bye is hard….

January 17, 2017

We had a wonderful time over the holidays and we are so thankful for the time we had to spend with Dima. It was a very special Christmas, being able to share this time with this precious boy we all love so much. We picked Dima up at JFK on December 17th and he stayed with us until January 15th. He settled into our family very easily again. He greeted us at the airport with his big smile and hugs, calling us “Mom” and “Dad”, and everything felt right again. We had waited for this moment for 5 months, and yes, it was worth the wait! We had our “family” photo taken, minus my older two boys that were unable to come with us for pick-up and headed for Maine. The next day we arrived back home with Dima. He ran into our house, directly upstairs jumped onto his bed and checked his bureau to make sure everything was just the way he left it. He ran back down to us with a huge smile, and you could see it. This boy was secure, confident, and his trust and love for us was evident. I was a happy mom and things felt right again!

 We had our boy back with us and Christmas season had officially begun! We decorated our Christmas tree, read stories from our Jessie Tree, made Christmas cookies with frosting and sprinkles and candy, then did the same with Gingerbread houses. We sang Christmas carols, went to a beautiful Candlelit Christmas Eve service and spent time reading together from the Jesus Storybook Bible in both English and Russian. Christmas day was a special time. We woke up to the sound of our children counting down 10, 9, 8, 7, and so on then 5 happy children jumped onto our bed. This was my Christmas gift!

Dima got to experience his first Christmas morning and it started with a red and white stocking marked with a “D” and presents under  the tree labeled with his name. Oh, the joy on his face! We were the lucky ones! We got to witness this sweet boy experience these “firsts”.

Christmas passed too quickly! We spent the next few weeks enjoying every moment we had with Dima.  He loved spending time outdoors and he enjoyed the cold weather and snow in Maine. He loved that we had a yard that he could sled and snowboard in. We took him down hill skiing, ice fishing, snow tubing, sledding, and ice skating. He had a lot of fun playing soccer at a local indoor soccer turf and enjoyed playing some basketball. He enjoyed playing with match box cars, remote control cars, legos, nerf guns, and many different board games. He bonded more with his “brothers” and “sister” and with his “grandparents”, “aunts”, “uncles” and “cousins”.  He bonded with everyone in our family this time and he felt loved by all.

The departure date was looming over our heads, but we tried to not focus on this. We packed the car and headed for JFK again on December 14th. We had a fun night in the pool and then snuggling in our hotel room and looking through his photo album of all the fun things we did together. We filled his backpack with his favorite candy and snacks. We filled a suitcase as full as we could with toothbrushes, band aids, antibiotic ointments and soaps. We paked warms tights, winter jackets, winter boots, and socks and as many snacks as we could to send back to the orphanage. I took one last photo of Dima sounds asleep curled up with his sweet little head sharing my son’s pillow and then woke them up to get ready to leave for the airport. It was the moment I had been dreading since our pick-up in JFK. 

We drove Dima back to the airport and cherised our last moments in the car with him before we had to walk him into the airport. We were able to check his suitcase in for him, then help him get his backpack on and ready to walk through security. This moment was hard. Fighting back the tears, we had one more family photo, hugged him one last time,and then promised him Mom and Dad would see him soon. We then had to watch him walk away as he headed off through security without us.  

We walked out of the airport feeling sad and once again that our family was incomplete. There were many emotions and thoughts swirling through our heads. This good bye was hard. We had so many questions and there were so many unknowns. Who was he going to sit by on the plane? Who was going to make sure he didn’t eat all his candy in his backpack and make sure that he was warm enough? Who was going to give him a snack before bed so that he would not go to sleep hungry or thirsty? Who was going to hug him good night and tell him they love him? For the last 4 weeks we could do all these things for Dima . It was our privilege to be his mom and dad, and all of a sudden that was gone. It didn’t seem fair. 

As we started our drive away from the airport, tears started to flow. Yes,  in my mind I know that this is one step closer to bringing our sweet boy home for good, but it doesn’t make the good-bye any easier. Enouragement comes at the right time though because God is good. It was then that I recieved a text from my friend with encouraging words.  She reminded me that God loves Dima even more than we do, and that God has some pretty incredible plans for us all. I was so thankful for these words that I needed to hear at that moment. Yes, God has a plan for us and we are trusting in his perfect timing and plan for Dima and our family. From the mountains of paperwork, documents, fundraising and waiting and even more waiting… it is good to know we are not doing it on our own! Thank you for all of you that have encouraged our family through your donations, prayers and support. We appreciate all of you. We have been incredibly blessed by our family and friends and even strangers through his entire experience. We are so thankful. Please continue to join us as we seek to follow what the Lord requires off us in Micah 6:8, “To do justice, to love kindness and to walk humbly with your God.” 

Aaron and Emily 

 

 

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