You Can’t, God Can

Sonja Nelson
Sonja Nelson Apex, North Carolina

Adoption has been apart of our lives and family for over 35 years.  I was diagnosed with endometriosis at just 17.  After multiple surgeries & birthing complications, we were blessed with 2 children.  Their births caused additional damage to my body, that resulted in a hysterectomy.  As our kids grew, so did our desire to grow our family. In 2004, we became licensed foster parents. We fostered 13 children in our home. While we loved each of them, adopting was never an option. We are happy they were all reunited with their family unit.

In 2018, our 3rd niece, Mia, was adopted from China. She was 12 years old.  Until her adoption, we didn’t realize the need to adopt older special needs children from China. She arrived home December 21st, just in time for Christmas. Just when you think your heart is full, God has a way of reminding us there is always room to love a little more.

In January 2019 our niece began speaking about her best friend at the orphanage, Gou Hua, who would turn 14 in January 2020. Once 14, a child in China is no longer eligible for adoption. They will never experience the love of a family. Mia told of the sadness Gou Hua experienced prior to her leaving. Gou Hua expressed to Mia that she too desired to have a family of her own. One problem, the orphanage had never processed paperwork for Gou Hua to be adopted.

On March 1st, 2019 we made the decision to pursue adopting Gou Hua and push the orphanage to complete her paperwork. This would be a blind leap of faith. How would we come up with $35,000.00 for an adoption in less than 1 year, pay $17,000.00 in college tuition for our other children, plus room and board? Would the orphanage complete and prepare Gou Hua's file to be adopted? We had so many concerns, questions, and what ifs. In Pastor Mike Lee’s book, “You Can’t God Can,” there is a paragraph I had saved. His book states, “God already had the ‘how’ figured out, He was just looking for the ‘who.’ It works the same way in our personal lives. God nudges us. We feel something in our heart, but all we can see is the obstacle. However, if we take that first step, God turns those obstacles into opportunities.”

This is an opportunity to grow our family how God had intended. We took the leap of faith, unsure of the outcome. Six months later our home study was completed, I800-A approval had been received, and our dossier was submitted to China. Gou Hua’s paperwork was finally completed by the orphanage, approved by Bazhong civil affairs and Sichuan provincial offices, then forwarded to CCCWA for translation & final approval 08/26/19. We received her file 09/26/19 and China said YES to our adopting Gou Hou on 10/15/19! The rest is history… this sweet girl has her forever family! “If you don’t take the chance, you may miss your miracle.” This is our Christmas miracle, and we are so honored to be written into her story. It is a bonus, that 2 little girls whom grew to be best friends, thought to be separated forever, are now FAMILY! #cousinsquad

We are blessed and thankful to have been awarded a $2,500 matching grant from The Agape Family Legacy Adoption Fund, administered by Lifesong for Orphans. That means the first $2,500 raised, will be doubled to become $5,000! Thank you for your support and prayers as we begin this journey as a party of 5!

 


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Nelson 08715”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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Adoption has been apart of our lives and family for over 35 years.  I was diagnosed with endometriosis at just 17.  After multiple surgeries & birthing complications, we were blessed with 2 children.  Their births caused additional damage to my body, that resulted in a hysterectomy.  As our kids grew, so did our desire to grow our family. In 2004, we became licensed foster parents. We fostered 13 children in our home. While we loved each of them, adopting was never an option. We are happy they were all reunited with their family unit.

In 2018, our 3rd niece, Mia, was adopted from China. She was 12 years old.  Until her adoption, we didn’t realize the need to adopt older special needs children from China. She arrived home December 21st, just in time for Christmas. Just when you think your heart is full, God has a way of reminding us there is always room to love a little more.

In January 2019 our niece began speaking about her best friend at the orphanage, Gou Hua, who would turn 14 in January 2020. Once 14, a child in China is no longer eligible for adoption. They will never experience the love of a family. Mia told of the sadness Gou Hua experienced prior to her leaving. Gou Hua expressed to Mia that she too desired to have a family of her own. One problem, the orphanage had never processed paperwork for Gou Hua to be adopted.

On March 1st, 2019 we made the decision to pursue adopting Gou Hua and push the orphanage to complete her paperwork. This would be a blind leap of faith. How would we come up with $35,000.00 for an adoption in less than 1 year, pay $17,000.00 in college tuition for our other children, plus room and board? Would the orphanage complete and prepare Gou Hua's file to be adopted? We had so many concerns, questions, and what ifs. In Pastor Mike Lee’s book, “You Can’t God Can,” there is a paragraph I had saved. His book states, “God already had the ‘how’ figured out, He was just looking for the ‘who.’ It works the same way in our personal lives. God nudges us. We feel something in our heart, but all we can see is the obstacle. However, if we take that first step, God turns those obstacles into opportunities.”

This is an opportunity to grow our family how God had intended. We took the leap of faith, unsure of the outcome. Six months later our home study was completed, I800-A approval had been received, and our dossier was submitted to China. Gou Hua’s paperwork was finally completed by the orphanage, approved by Bazhong civil affairs and Sichuan provincial offices, then forwarded to CCCWA for translation & final approval 08/26/19. We received her file 09/26/19 and China said YES to our adopting Gou Hou on 10/15/19! The rest is history… this sweet girl has her forever family! “If you don’t take the chance, you may miss your miracle.” This is our Christmas miracle, and we are so honored to be written into her story. It is a bonus, that 2 little girls whom grew to be best friends, thought to be separated forever, are now FAMILY! #cousinsquad

We are blessed and thankful to have been awarded a $2,500 matching grant from The Agape Family Legacy Adoption Fund, administered by Lifesong for Orphans. That means the first $2,500 raised, will be doubled to become $5,000! Thank you for your support and prayers as we begin this journey as a party of 5!

 


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Nelson 08715”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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