Hello! We are Ben and Jana Busenitz. Even before we were married, we both thought it would be neat to adopt someday! After the birth of our firstborn son, Jana struggled with health issues and we didn’t think we would be able to have more biological children. During that time we both desired to give life and love to more children. We also desired to make a difference in the life of a child who would not otherwise have a loving, stable family life.
We began praying about whether God would have us to adopt and studying to see what Scripture said about adoption. We quickly noticed that according to Scripture we are not just called but commanded to care for the widow and the orphan. We knew that didn’t mean that everyone was called to adopt. But we felt that this was what the Lord was calling our family to do. We were amazed by the support from family and friends, financial provision just when we needed it, and confirmation that this was indeed God’s plan for our family.
In 2015 we were shocked but delighted to find out that we were expecting our second child! We still wanted to adopt though, and right before Christmas, we were matched! When we arrived in the birth state, we found that the expectant mother’s adult daughters were unexpectedly trying to stop the adoption plan. The next three days were an awful roller coaster of emotions as it looked like we would not be able to adopt this baby boy after all.
Finally, the preliminary paperwork was signed and we were able to go meet our son for the first time! It was love at first sight! We had our son in the car seat, ready to leave the hospital, when we were told would have to wait. The next four hours were blissful as we bonded with our son, holding nothing back as we loved on him as our own. We are never been so shocked in our lives when we were told that the birth mother had changed her mind and the state was coming to take the child we had thought was our son. We felt as though we had lost a child that day.
In spite of our heartbreak over the failed adoption, we still wanted to adopt. We decided to wait until our daughter was six months old before renewing our adoption process. Once again to our utter shock, we got pregnant again when our daughter was only five months old! This pregnancy, however, turned out to be a tubal pregnancy that ruptured a few weeks later. As Jana recuperated in the hospital, we saw how this event affected the life of our baby daughter. Her life was only disrupted for a few days, but we knew there were many children out there who did not have a stable home life. We felt sure that adoption was still something we wanted to do, for our hearts ached to provide love and stability to a child who would not otherwise have it.
We updated our home study and in September 2017 we adopted our son. We can’t imagine our lives without him. He brings so much life and joy to our family! We love him with all of our hearts! We are profoundly grateful to his birth parents for choosing life for him, and to the Lord for making him part of our family.
Since adopting our son, our heart for adoption has only grown. We like to say adoption is one of the hardest things we have ever done, but the most worth it thing we have ever done! We have seen up close and personal how adoption is born out of difficulty and pain, but we have also seen how God can use it to bring life to a child and redemption out of hard things. Going through the adoption process has given us new eyes for the theme of adoption in our own lives, in the way that God has adopted us into His forever family. We are all so excited to share that life and love with needy children and birth families! It is the most precious thing to hear our three children praying faithfully and specifically for the child or children that God has planned for our family.
We have seen firsthand that God never asks us to walk out a calling to adoption alone – He always sends others to help and support in order to bring that calling into reality! And God is already providing! We have been awarded a $5000 matching grant from AIM 5 Adoption Fund and administered by Lifesong for Orphans. We praise the Lord for this and look forward to seeing how God provides! Thank you for taking the time to read our story, for your prayers for us, and for your loving support!
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