Bringing Silas Home

Jessica Peters
Jessica Peters Liberty Township, Ohio
Home!
We are so happy to be home with all of our kids in one spot. It’s unbelievable that only four days after submitting our names, we got a phone call that a precious family chose us to raise their 4 week old son. Only 4 days after that, we took custody and drove to another state to meet our new son. He is gorgeous and precious and worth every paper cut and every dime we scrimped to pay for his adoption. Our adorable boy has Down Syndrome and VACTERL. How overwhelming to have not just one, but two syndromes. We still don’t know what lies before us, but behind us already lies two heart defects that healed on their own (Thank you, Lord, that he won’t need heart surgery!), a feeding tube that came out because this boy loves his bottle and learned to eat, a month long NICU stay, and many details that were worked out for our convenience and to help us put money towards his adoption. I am thanking God for already healing my son in so many ways and for his future to be bright and healthy!
Long term, we look forward to our little Silas being loved by many people. We know that lots of people who love him is what’s going to put him on a successful path in life.
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STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Peters 09269”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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Raised to date by 31 people
 of  $4,000
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My Story

Home!
We are so happy to be home with all of our kids in one spot. It’s unbelievable that only four days after submitting our names, we got a phone call that a precious family chose us to raise their 4 week old son. Only 4 days after that, we took custody and drove to another state to meet our new son. He is gorgeous and precious and worth every paper cut and every dime we scrimped to pay for his adoption. Our adorable boy has Down Syndrome and VACTERL. How overwhelming to have not just one, but two syndromes. We still don’t know what lies before us, but behind us already lies two heart defects that healed on their own (Thank you, Lord, that he won’t need heart surgery!), a feeding tube that came out because this boy loves his bottle and learned to eat, a month long NICU stay, and many details that were worked out for our convenience and to help us put money towards his adoption. I am thanking God for already healing my son in so many ways and for his future to be bright and healthy!
Long term, we look forward to our little Silas being loved by many people. We know that lots of people who love him is what’s going to put him on a successful path in life.
Image may contain: living room, table and indoor

STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Peters 09269”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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Almost legal! Please celebrate with us!

June 12, 2021

We got word that the court has all of our paperwork so finalization can proceed!  July 1st, Silas River Peters will officially be named Silas River Peters and he will legally be our son, instead of the adoption agency’s. 

Of course it doesn’t feel that way. The moment I saw him laying in that clear bassinet, under the bright lights, with all kinds of wires coming in and out, I knew he was mine. I had found the child I was looking for. 

The whiteboard in his NICU cubicle read the name his birth parents had given him. The nurses told me that everyone there wanted to take him home. They all loved his hair. His nurses would fight to get him off of the feeding tube. 

Here we are, almost a year later. We’ll be going to court on July 1st to change his name. We’ll walk out of there exactly the same way we walked in, as a real family. 

So what are we most excited about? Well, the name change for sure. But also the paperwork. There is a constant flow of forms to fill out. All with the same information we filled out last time. There are monthly bills to pay to the adoption agency. With every bill we pay it feels like we are taking money away from Silas. With every form we fill out we are reminded that Silas isn’t his real name. We are so, so , so excited for that to all be finished! 

Maybe we’ll appreciate it more because it’s been such a struggle. Maybe it will make us more compassionate.  But i know right now, we are just THANKFUL. We’re thankful that his first family made good decisions for him. We’re thankful that the nurses loved him until we could get to him. We’re thankful for his precious smile and the fact that he fits in to our family perfectly. 

And we are so, forever thankful for all of the people who took a risk in walking through this with us! People pray for him, ask about him, read his updates. People let me use their baby things. So many people visit him and kiss his squishy cheeks. People give us cash to pay his bills. Literally take money from something else they could be doing and give it to Silas instead. The incredible amount of love shown to all of us is completely overwhelming. 

So , all that to say, let’s celebrate! 

We’ll have an Adoption / First Birthday party for Silas on Saturday, July 17th. Text or email me if you’d like to come and I’ll send you the info. I don’t think I should post it here because this is not a private page.  twoeight80@gmail.com

 

Thank you for being a part of this wild journey! 

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Surgery #3 is soon! Finalization is coming!

January 26, 2021

SURGERY

Silas has at least one more surgery. We’re waiting to see the urologist and get a call from the colorectal surgeon.

This next surgery will be to put his stoma, the part of his intestine that is outside of his body, back in his body and sew him all up! It’s not an emergency at all, but the surgeon wants to do it before Silas starts being more mobile. He said healing is better when they are more still! Can you believe his intestine has been outside his body for almost 6 months? Our healthcare is incredible! 

We are very, very excited to have this surgery done! There are still a lot of tears (mine. Silas doesn’t care at all.) over taking care of his ostomy. We have learned a lot and are getting better at it, but it’s never going to be perfect. He has such beautiful, light brown skin. I want his little tummy to be all healed and smooth like the rest of him! 

ADOPTION

In our state, you have to have 7 visits from the social worker in 6 months. That means that no one going through private adoption is going to finalize before the child is 6 months old. We’re getting close! We also need the county to finish paperwork for him that pertains to his disability. Once all of that paperwork is finished and we have 7 social worker visits, we’ll be ready to go before the court and make this official! 

It’s going to be very meaningful to me to hear them call for “Silas” at his doctor’s appointments. I felt like he was mine from the first moment I laid eyes on him. I can’t wait for it to be legal too! I just want to buy him everything in the whole world that says “Silas” on it! 

FINANCES

I think we’re still in a bit of shock over people donating to Silas’s adoption. I logged in to my account today, half expecting the money to be gone because it was some sort of mistake. But instead, I saw another donation!  For people to give something up for him? It’s unbelievable. People want Silas in a family. It’s evident by the outpouring of support for him. I honestly have the best friends and family and acquaintances in the entire world.

Prayer

We are thanking the Lord for everyone who is joining us in this journey. We’ll never know all of the little pieces that came together in this, but we know that all of you are part of it. 

We agree with God that we should care for the orphans and we know that you do too. I am praying that 2021 will be an incredible year full of children getting their families!  

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Surgery #2

December 6, 2020

The surgery was successful! 

I am so glad that we are getting on the other side of this. It was SO hard. My happy little baby was out of it for days.

The surgeon did great. The last he said was that it would be at least 5 hours but it only took 4!  The nurses were great. Silas healed fast. They said he wouldn’t leave until Friday night at the earliest, 10 days at the lastest,  but we were home by 4pm on Friday!

It really couldn’t have gone any better. But it’s still so hard. Hard to make your baby stop eating for surgery. Hard to walk to the elevator. Hard to hand him to the nurse. Hard to wait. Hard to manange the pain once you get home. 

I wish we didn’t have to do this for him to get better but I’m so, so thankful that we get to be there when he comes out of surgery. I’m thankful that we get to be the ones to love him and take care of him. He’s such a precious little life. He needs a family to go through this with him. We absolutely adore him! 

Silas, when you’re older and you’re reading this, know that Mommy and Daddy were there the whole time. You were such a trooper! Surgeries are always really hard but God took good care of you. You loved your doctor and nurses. They told each other about your handsome hair.  Amy gave you special attention and held you at her desk while Mommy and Daddy ran down to get food. She even came to say goodbye to you.  So many people love you, Silas. 

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“But why would they give him up? He’s so adorable!”

November 17, 2020

“But why would they give him up? He’s so adorable!”

Yes, he is so adorable! 

I have been asked this question enough to feel like  many people must wonder why Silas was placed for adoption.

Why would his birth parents place him for adoption? They are from another country, here legally, but planning to go back to where they were born. Where they are from does not have good medical care. They don’t think that Silas will get the care he needs there. 

“Do you believe them?”

Yes, I do. I have looked into it myself and I do believe that Silas would not get the care he needs, especially for the VACTERL that he has. He would not have all of the medical supplies that he needs either. We are taking Silas to one of the best pediatric surgeons in the country. This surgeon does more of these surgeries than anyone else in Ohio. We have almost unlimited access to any medical supplies that we need for Silas. These are things that he would not get in his birth parents’ home country.

“But there has to be more to the story. He’s so adorable!”

Of course there is more to the story. There is always more to the story. But I will never put it in writing. If my boy grows up and learns to read well, this is what I want him to read:

God planned for you to be my son. Before you were born, I wanted you. I have wanted you my whole life.  I met you when you were 4 weeks old. I saw you and I thought “there you are! I have been looking for you!”  I know things aren’t going to be perfect but I don’t care because I want you. I want to be the one to hold you, change your colostomy bag, mix up your complicated bottles, fight for you at your appointments, order all of your perfect supplies. I want to teach you to read. I want to show you how it feels to be loved. You are mine. You have always been mine. I want you. 

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How we decided to adopt someone with special needs

November 4, 2020

I, Jessica, have always wanted at least 100 children. I love playing with them and laughing and teaching them to read. I really love teaching 6th grade math. And watching their eyes light up over something that seems so small. I love how they smell after a bath. I love buying them new shoes and watching them run through the store to test them out. I love hearing their dreams every morning and telling them bedtime stories at night. The wonderful thought of sending them into the world and then just watching what they do and who they become. My body, however, did not want to grow 100 children. So we began to look into adoption. I learned that for every healthy baby being placed for adoption, 36 families were ready and legally available to adopt them. Foster to adopt was another idea, but after learning how hard it was to actually adopt a child out of foster care in Ohio, we knew it wouldn’t be a great fit for our other children, who need the stability of their siblings being permanent.  Going overseas wasn’t a great option because I cannot stomach flying over the ocean without my other children. 

So where was the need? Where were the orphans that God wants me personally to care for? I happened upon the National Down Syndrome Adoption Network and started watching all of their educational videos. This was something we could do! We started saving up money and checking off the requirements. Special Angels Adoption was one of their recommendations for the home study so I hired them for that part. The paperwork was endless. There were so many online classes. We had to have the fire department inspect our house. And then, they were sending a social worker to interview us! We had no idea what to expect so we basically cleaned the house and told the kids to be nice. The woman who showed up at my door that day blew us away. She was sweet and smart and supported adoption. She supported us. She encouraged us. I could not believe how God provided the perfect social worker to complete our home study! She still works with us as we wait for the adoption to be final. We absolutely adore her! 

As soon as everything with the home study was finished up, we registered with the National Down Syndrome Adoption Network. It’s free to be registered with them. Special Angels Adoption said it’s free to register with them as well, so we signed up with them too. Both organizations would email us about children who needed parents. We were allowed to say yes or no. If we said yes, the parents would be shown our photo book and get to decide if they wanted to place their child with us. We had a lot of no’s. A lot. So many that just before we learned about Silas, we decided that the need must not be great after all and that we would take the little bit of money we had saved up and put it towards replacing our old van.

Then I got the photo of Silas. He was so adorable. My kids wanted a baby girl though. So I talked to Scott and then we replied to the email about Silas an hour before it was due. This meant that they would show the birth parents our photo book and let them decide. We didn’t tell the kids since it was a boy and we didn’t think we stood a chance of being chosen anyway. That was a Thursday. The following Monday morning, I got a phone call from Special Angels that the family chose us!  I told the kids and what do you know, they suddenly wanted a baby boy! 

Our precious boy did not have to spend one day in foster care. He was a month old when we got him, but he was still in the NICU so he never had to change homes. Along with the National Down Syndrome Adoptoin Network and Special Angels, we stopped our sweet boy from ever becoming an orphan.

I don’t know if we will ever adopt again. I can share the heartache side another day. But even with everything we are going through on the legal/adoption side of things with Silas, I am so happy that we said “YES!”

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We received a Matching Grant!

October 26, 2020

 

We have received a matching grant of $4000 funded by Chosen and Dearly Loved, an “Outside the Walls” partner who wants to support Lifesong adoptive families.  This means that every donation we receive through this direct website, with our family account number #9269 , on it , will be matched up to $4,000! It has been so amazing to see God’s provision for Silas. He is one very loved little boy! 

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Katie

Oct 18, 2021

“Congrats! Sorry it took me a minute to do this! Katie ( A Lil Something Extra)”

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“Praying the precious baby brings others to know that God made him perfectly and to know His amazing love through his life! God bless!”

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