We knew we wanted to adopt many years ago when we began going on international mission trips with our home church in TN. We have been to orphanages and foster homes in Thailand and China, and after working with the home in China in 2008, we walked away knowing we would be back to Asia one day to adopt. And, we were, three years later! I would say our attitudes are the same as it relates to adoption. The first time we decided to adopt, it was a mutual decision. This time around, I was the one who saw the photo listing and brought it up. It is very hard to turn a blind eye to kids around the world who need a family after you see them and the conditions they live in. God has given us both such a heart for mission work and during these trips, our hearts became so burdened for the children around the world. Everywhere we went, we worked with children, whether it was leading a vacation Bible school, teaching them English, playing local games, or sharing a meal. After we had Grayson, our oldest, I (Becca) just felt incredibly burdened to begin the adoption process before we had any more biological children. It wasn’t that we didn’t want another biological child, it was just that God had placed adoption on our hearts and that desire was not going to go away with more biological children. So, when Grayson was just 13 months old, we began the process with South Korea. This process gave us our incredible son, Neylan. And, while there have been some difficult times with him, we love him to pieces and the bond he has with Grayson is priceless. Life would be pretty boring without Neylan, our funny jokester, around!
After our daughter was born in 2014, we were done having kids. Neylan is such a delight and our adoption process was fairly easy, so I had never pushed the option of adopting again out of the realm of possibility. But with Adam’s career in ministry and us not having any family around to help out, we were pretty maxed out with what we felt we could handle. One night, I (Becca) just happened to be online and decided to look at our agency’s website. I hadn’t done that in a very long time, because we weren’t looking to adopt again. But, this time when I went to look at the little ones who needed a family, I saw our daughter’s face. And I was drawn to her. She had a little video that was precious. I could imagine her being Brynlee’s sister because they were currently doing the same thing, starting to explore lipstick! I saw her birthday and quickly did the math. They would be 9 months apart! Another set of virtual twins!! That may scare some people away, but having kids that close in age has worked really well for us. It’s actually all we’ve ever known. It’s been so much fun for the boys to have each other and to really do life together with the same friends and activities. So, seeing her age was actually a draw to me. And, then I read the description of her special needs and it happened to say “possible visual impairment”. Now, I was hooked. Since I am an OT who specializes in visual impairment, I knew I couldn’t turn my back on this little girl at this point. So, I began praying about it before I ever mentioned it to Adam. The burden for this little one grew so incredibly strong over the course of a few weeks, and of course, right at the same time when I was doing a Bible study on faith. What a coincidence! Adam and I finally sat down and talked about it, prayed about it, sought Godly counsel, and decided to move forward with the application process. We knew that our agency does not like to match kids with families when they are out of birth order or are artificially twinning, so we knew it would be a long shot that we would be matched with her, especially since there was another family also pursuing her. But, we took a huge leap of faith and moved forward simply because we really felt she was meant to be ours. And, several weeks later, after a bunch of paperwork, interviews, and a committee meeting, we were chosen to be her family!
We are now in the final stages of this long process. We are waiting on a court date to be assigned and then off to Korea we go for our first trip. We will then return back home and travel once again to Korea about a month later to bring Meryn home. We are hoping and praying to be home with Meryn by Christmas.
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