Adoption from A to Z

Tiffany Arachikavitz STRAFFORD, Missouri

We have always been a little odd as a family. Getting married at 20 years old, both working in ministry together and loving it, and from day one, having an adoption plan. We told everyone that we would adopt two kids and have two kids biologically. We would also make sure that we had two of each gender. It was something we could plan. It was something we could control, right?

Seven years into being married, God blessed us with a son and two years later, a second son. Because of our fool-proof plan of having two of one gender, and adopting two of the opposite gender, we worked with Lifeline to adopt a daughter from China. As we were finishing up the home-study, surprise! We were pregnant with our third son. So much for telling God our plan and controlling the outcome. I guess He saw something different for us.

We put the adoption on hold, positive that we would pick it back up in a year or two. But life took a crazy turn and took us on a whirlwind adventure. After 11 years of stability in ministry, we left our jobs in Florida to work at a church in North Carolina. A year and a half into that, God called us to an international church in Shanghai, China. We were able to minister there until Covid made the international church a completely different scene. We went to Washington state to learn about church planting through a church residency program. While living there, we were able to get into the foster care system. It seemed like we finally figured out how we would adopt the daughter we had hoped for. The day we were offered our first foster placement, we got a call that our one-year church planting residency would not be renewed for another year.

We moved to Missouri to follow God’s calling to help revitalize a church. We immediately investigated the Missouri foster care system, but it was door after door slamming in our faces. Frustration after frustration.

We had to take a step back and look at what was happening and how God was working. The reason we had switched to local foster care was because the cost of international adoption was overwhelming. Having moved so frequently, and working in ministry, there was no way we could make that work with our budget.

But God.

We decided that if this was what God wanted us to do, then finances were not going to stop Him. We both prayed about it and God put an excitement in us again for international adoption.

As we looked at the globe, we weren’t sure where God was calling us to adopt from. We assumed it would be somewhere we had visited or lived in or had family from, like China, Ukraine, Peru, or Romania. When we received the fact sheet on Hungary, we felt a stirring in our hearts. We still tried to talk with representatives from other regions, but God kept pulling us back to Hungary.

Currently we are learning everything we can about Hungary and preparing our homes and our hearts for what may come next. We experienced a miscarriage about two years ago, and it is interesting to see how God is working that in as well.

Every night at tuck-in, our three boys have individual prayers that we do together. Prayers that were written specifically for them. Our eleven-year-old has been praying for his sister since about the day he learned to talk. It has been a lifelong journey for our entire family as we have waited in anticipation of who God will bring to our family.

We know Proverbs 16:9 all too well. We have made plans. God has redirected our steps. Sometimes He does it gently, sometimes it’s through a storm or a slammed door, sometimes He might do it with a slight laugh. We have made plans for our family and those are nothing like what our family looks like right now. But our family is beautiful. Currently, we feel God is calling us to make plans to adopt a daughter or sibling pair from Hungary. What will this end up looking like? Only God knows. The journey has been long. The journey has been fun. The journey has been tough. We can’t wait to see where this adoption journey leads tomorrow.


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction)*. Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Arachikavitz 10715”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
  • *3.5% fee for donations given with an American Express card
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My Story

We have always been a little odd as a family. Getting married at 20 years old, both working in ministry together and loving it, and from day one, having an adoption plan. We told everyone that we would adopt two kids and have two kids biologically. We would also make sure that we had two of each gender. It was something we could plan. It was something we could control, right?

Seven years into being married, God blessed us with a son and two years later, a second son. Because of our fool-proof plan of having two of one gender, and adopting two of the opposite gender, we worked with Lifeline to adopt a daughter from China. As we were finishing up the home-study, surprise! We were pregnant with our third son. So much for telling God our plan and controlling the outcome. I guess He saw something different for us.

We put the adoption on hold, positive that we would pick it back up in a year or two. But life took a crazy turn and took us on a whirlwind adventure. After 11 years of stability in ministry, we left our jobs in Florida to work at a church in North Carolina. A year and a half into that, God called us to an international church in Shanghai, China. We were able to minister there until Covid made the international church a completely different scene. We went to Washington state to learn about church planting through a church residency program. While living there, we were able to get into the foster care system. It seemed like we finally figured out how we would adopt the daughter we had hoped for. The day we were offered our first foster placement, we got a call that our one-year church planting residency would not be renewed for another year.

We moved to Missouri to follow God’s calling to help revitalize a church. We immediately investigated the Missouri foster care system, but it was door after door slamming in our faces. Frustration after frustration.

We had to take a step back and look at what was happening and how God was working. The reason we had switched to local foster care was because the cost of international adoption was overwhelming. Having moved so frequently, and working in ministry, there was no way we could make that work with our budget.

But God.

We decided that if this was what God wanted us to do, then finances were not going to stop Him. We both prayed about it and God put an excitement in us again for international adoption.

As we looked at the globe, we weren’t sure where God was calling us to adopt from. We assumed it would be somewhere we had visited or lived in or had family from, like China, Ukraine, Peru, or Romania. When we received the fact sheet on Hungary, we felt a stirring in our hearts. We still tried to talk with representatives from other regions, but God kept pulling us back to Hungary.

Currently we are learning everything we can about Hungary and preparing our homes and our hearts for what may come next. We experienced a miscarriage about two years ago, and it is interesting to see how God is working that in as well.

Every night at tuck-in, our three boys have individual prayers that we do together. Prayers that were written specifically for them. Our eleven-year-old has been praying for his sister since about the day he learned to talk. It has been a lifelong journey for our entire family as we have waited in anticipation of who God will bring to our family.

We know Proverbs 16:9 all too well. We have made plans. God has redirected our steps. Sometimes He does it gently, sometimes it’s through a storm or a slammed door, sometimes He might do it with a slight laugh. We have made plans for our family and those are nothing like what our family looks like right now. But our family is beautiful. Currently, we feel God is calling us to make plans to adopt a daughter or sibling pair from Hungary. What will this end up looking like? Only God knows. The journey has been long. The journey has been fun. The journey has been tough. We can’t wait to see where this adoption journey leads tomorrow.


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction)*. Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Arachikavitz 10715”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 9, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
  • *3.5% fee for donations given with an American Express card
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Timeline update

December 18, 2023
doption Update!
Ok, before I share that, please make sure to comment to let us know if you are praying for us or any questions you have about our adoption. Love to know we are in this with a whole cloud of witnesses.
We have completed our 3 home studies! What that means is that our family has and marriage has been studied. Our agent will now finish out her report on us and turn in all our documentation (background checks for every state we have lived in and federally, fingerprints, personal interviews, references, insurance info, home layout, income information, education plan, and certificates of our dozens of training modules we have completed).
That will be turned into the US government and eventually to Hungary.
Now that we are unofficially approved in our home study (official approval comes from the state not our agent sees no issues) here it what happens next.
– Official approval of our home study.
– US immigration documents turned in and approved
– Our dossier (think adoption profile) filled out and applied to Hungary.
– Matching us with our Hungarian family (the term we are using since we don’t know if it will be a kid, or kids. Brother and sister or sisters).
– Travel to Hungary for court appearances, slow introduction to our Hungarian family.
– Travel home with our Hungarian family!
– Cocooning with our Hungarian family (a time where we limit their interactions and experiences as so much will have changed. We want them to get to know our home and family and feel safe. Limit the overwhelming feelings as much as we can.).
Please again check out our fundraising. We know there is about $700 in checks being sent in. We still need around $4,000 to reach our matching grant level. Please help us in this. We have had gifts from $20-$1,000. Know any little bit helps🙂
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Home studies

November 7, 2023

Part of the adoption process involves a local case worker leading us through the home study process.

This can be a crazy and intimidating process.

3 weeks ago they come to our house, checked out every room, interviewed us, and interviewed the kids. Friday Tiffany and I drove down to Arkansas for another couple hours of interviews.

What is amazing in this process is how much it makes me appreciate my family and upbringing.

I got to look back on my childhood; how my dad always encouraged me and showed up to everything I did and how my mom always vocalized her love.

I got to share how my wife and I are such a team. It is so hard to find anything I would improve in my marriage. I got to share how we help each others stress levels, how we walk and talk everyday, and how we almost never are on separate pages.

I forget how blessed I am to have my upbringing and my marriage. God has blessed me beyond measure and I so look forward to sharing our household with the kid(s) that God has chosen for our household.

2 Home study interviews down, 1 left!

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Cooking up some fund raising

November 3, 2023
This time of the year is exciting as many of you are preparing for the holidays. We are preparing too! Preparing for our adoption from Hungary. We have found a way to combine the preparation and joy of the holidays with the preparation and joy of our upcoming adoption and we would love for you to be a part of it!
A friend of ours in China is hosting a Pampered Chef party for us where we will receive 30% of the proceeds! Plus, this will go directly towards our matching grant, so really we will receive 60% of whatever you purchase! That’s crazy! And we’re so excited! So please, join the party to peruse the online catalogue and enjoy buying Christmas gifts or fun food/kitchen toys for yourself. It’s perfect timing with the holidays and with our matching grant!
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Want to be a part of our adoption story? (Ways to give)

October 30, 2023
Here is how you can be involved now. Join us and our current children in praying for our future child or children. The only thing that we know about them is that they are from Hungary and they have been through something traumatic in their short lives that has left them parentless.
The next thing you can do is give financially. Every little bit helps. We have a partner organization that takes no fees for your donation (except a credit card processing fee if you choose that giving option) and have been given a $9,000+ matching grant to help us out.
If you would like to donate via check (which also goes towards our matching grant), you can send it to:
Lifesong for Orphans
PO Box 9
Gridley, IL 61744
Memo line: “Preference #10715 Arachikavitz”
So many have already given to this adoption via your prayers, lessons you have taught us through the years, and inspiration from your own heart for orphans. We look forward to continuing this journey together!
So, are you in this with us??
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Funding Update: We Have a Matching Grant

October 20, 2023

Hello Family and Friends, 

  Big news!! An orginization named Lifesong has decided to partner with us in our adoption. We have been awarded $9316 in matching grants from Faith Adoption Fund + Lifesong for Orphans!

  Here is why this is huge, international adoption is not cheap. It will cost around $45,000 to adopot our kid(s) from Hungary. If you all are able to hit our matching grant givers, our adoption will be over 40% funded! How amazing is it that there are pepole in this world who take God’s love of orphans so seriously that they would give to strangers so generously? What a termendous honor and blessing.

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