We have always been a little odd as a family. Getting married at 20 years old, both working in ministry together and loving it, and from day one, having an adoption plan. We told everyone that we would adopt two kids and have two kids biologically. We would also make sure that we had two of each gender. It was something we could plan. It was something we could control, right?
Seven years into being married, God blessed us with a son and two years later, a second son. Because of our fool-proof plan of having two of one gender, and adopting two of the opposite gender, we worked with Lifeline to adopt a daughter from China. As we were finishing up the home-study, surprise! We were pregnant with our third son. So much for telling God our plan and controlling the outcome. I guess He saw something different for us.
We put the adoption on hold, positive that we would pick it back up in a year or two. But life took a crazy turn and took us on a whirlwind adventure. After 11 years of stability in ministry, we left our jobs in Florida to work at a church in North Carolina. A year and a half into that, God called us to an international church in Shanghai, China. We were able to minister there until Covid made the international church a completely different scene. We went to Washington state to learn about church planting through a church residency program. While living there, we were able to get into the foster care system. It seemed like we finally figured out how we would adopt the daughter we had hoped for. The day we were offered our first foster placement, we got a call that our one-year church planting residency would not be renewed for another year.
We moved to Missouri to follow God’s calling to help revitalize a church. We immediately investigated the Missouri foster care system, but it was door after door slamming in our faces. Frustration after frustration.
We had to take a step back and look at what was happening and how God was working. The reason we had switched to local foster care was because the cost of international adoption was overwhelming. Having moved so frequently, and working in ministry, there was no way we could make that work with our budget.
We decided that if this was what God wanted us to do, then finances were not going to stop Him. We both prayed about it and God put an excitement in us again for international adoption.
As we looked at the globe, we weren’t sure where God was calling us to adopt from. We assumed it would be somewhere we had visited or lived in or had family from, like China, Ukraine, Peru, or Romania. When we received the fact sheet on Hungary, we felt a stirring in our hearts. We still tried to talk with representatives from other regions, but God kept pulling us back to Hungary.
Currently we are learning everything we can about Hungary and preparing our homes and our hearts for what may come next. We experienced a miscarriage about two years ago, and it is interesting to see how God is working that in as well.
Every night at tuck-in, our three boys have individual prayers that we do together. Prayers that were written specifically for them. Our eleven-year-old has been praying for his sister since about the day he learned to talk. It has been a lifelong journey for our entire family as we have waited in anticipation of who God will bring to our family.
We know Proverbs 16:9 all too well. We have made plans. God has redirected our steps. Sometimes He does it gently, sometimes it’s through a storm or a slammed door, sometimes He might do it with a slight laugh. We have made plans for our family and those are nothing like what our family looks like right now. But our family is beautiful. Currently, we feel God is calling us to make plans to adopt a daughter or sibling pair from Hungary. What will this end up looking like? Only God knows. The journey has been long. The journey has been fun. The journey has been tough. We can’t wait to see where this adoption journey leads tomorrow.
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