Adopting Babyflay

Josh Flayhart Hoover, Alabama

Parenthood has always seemed like something that just happens and comes with marriage. Getting pregnant and having children seem like the next step. Never in a million years did we think infertility would be our story and that the “trying” would look like this. We had tried to conceive for over a year and then found out Josh could never father children biologically. There was no hope for us to get pregnant together; so we pursued the next couple years of various, intensive fertility treatments to increase chances at conceiving. All failed. We cannot express how alone and isolated we felt in the brokenness of our story.

Although our family and close friends were so supportive, for a season we were both bitter against God as we grieved the death of a dream; the death of how we thought our story would look like. Eventually, we heard God’s gentle spurring and invitation to pursue adoption, but honestly was hard through the grieving and fertility treatment efforts (can read more about this on our blog: https://www.babyflay.com/blog/we-re-adopting).

Now we are here. Grateful, willing, and excited. After 3 years of trying (much with medical assistance), God changed our hearts and desires toward adoption. As we let go and took hold of what God’s plan has always been for us, we experienced such peace and unity between us (and God). We now understand that adoption has ALWAYS been God’s plan for us because He singled us out for this purpose and for this child. This is a testament to His faithfulness and sufficiency of His grace to us both during this continued journey of waiting. Our hearts have been stretched and strengthened in this season of suffering, but to get to the place where we welcomed adoption with eager and joyful hearts is simply miraculous and could only be His workmanship!

“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”

– Ephesians 2:10

I truly see God binding up the brokenhearted and bringing beauty instead of ashes (Isaiah 61:1-3). We believe these truths also for our child as adoption only happens when there is great brokenness and loss. We wait now with great hope for this long awaited child, who is already so deeply loved and longed for.


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Flayhart 8322”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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My Story

Parenthood has always seemed like something that just happens and comes with marriage. Getting pregnant and having children seem like the next step. Never in a million years did we think infertility would be our story and that the “trying” would look like this. We had tried to conceive for over a year and then found out Josh could never father children biologically. There was no hope for us to get pregnant together; so we pursued the next couple years of various, intensive fertility treatments to increase chances at conceiving. All failed. We cannot express how alone and isolated we felt in the brokenness of our story.

Although our family and close friends were so supportive, for a season we were both bitter against God as we grieved the death of a dream; the death of how we thought our story would look like. Eventually, we heard God’s gentle spurring and invitation to pursue adoption, but honestly was hard through the grieving and fertility treatment efforts (can read more about this on our blog: https://www.babyflay.com/blog/we-re-adopting).

Now we are here. Grateful, willing, and excited. After 3 years of trying (much with medical assistance), God changed our hearts and desires toward adoption. As we let go and took hold of what God’s plan has always been for us, we experienced such peace and unity between us (and God). We now understand that adoption has ALWAYS been God’s plan for us because He singled us out for this purpose and for this child. This is a testament to His faithfulness and sufficiency of His grace to us both during this continued journey of waiting. Our hearts have been stretched and strengthened in this season of suffering, but to get to the place where we welcomed adoption with eager and joyful hearts is simply miraculous and could only be His workmanship!

“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”

– Ephesians 2:10

I truly see God binding up the brokenhearted and bringing beauty instead of ashes (Isaiah 61:1-3). We believe these truths also for our child as adoption only happens when there is great brokenness and loss. We wait now with great hope for this long awaited child, who is already so deeply loved and longed for.


STRIPE charges an online processing fee (2.2% +.30 USD per transaction). Your donations will be decreased by this amount. You may also send a check payable to “Lifesong for Orphans”. In the memo line please write “Flayhart 8322”, to ensure it is credited to our account. Please mail to Lifesong for Orphans, PO Box 40, Gridley, IL 61744.

Lifesong has been blessed with partners who underwrite all U.S. administrative and fundraising costs (TMG Foundation and other partners). That means 100% of your donation will go directly to the adoption.

  • In following IRS guidelines, your donation is to Lifesong for Orphans. This organization retains full discretion over its use, but intends to honor the donor’s suggested use.
  • Lifesong is a 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. Individual donations of $50 or more and yearly donations totaling $250 or more will receive a tax-deductible receipt. Receipts for donations under $50 will gladly be sent upon request.
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