Anna and I met in 2014, in the thick of difficult circumstances for both of us. After a season of living in rebellion against God, I moved to Hawaii to begin my PhD and started going back to church. Having just suffered the loss of her father, uncle and sister-in-law, Anna was visiting a friend in Hawaii for the weekend. A mutual friend knew Anna had served in a ministry for Christians who identified as LGBTQ, invited her to attend our bible study. Our introduction was brief and we don’t really remember much from our initial meeting.
Close to two years after our initial meeting, I was asked to be in a wedding party for a friend getting married in Pasadena, California. I knew Los Angeles was huge, but I saw Anna post something about her church in Pasadena and figured, if she’s attending church in Pasadena, good chance she lives close to Pasadena. I messaged her to see whether she would be interested in having a meal together when I arrived for the wedding.
I also noticed she posted things about orphan care on her Facebook. I knew Anna was single, so I asked her questions about adoption and foster care as a single person. I shared with her that if I was not in graduate school, I would consider adopting as a single dad. Anna was skeptical since most men she knew had little interest in orphan care and when the topic of adoption came up, it would instantly be a deal breaker for men she dated. She dodged my question the first two times, thinking I was stalking her social media posts just to continue our conversation!
Only after I shared with her that my grandparents run a group foster home, so I felt drawn to orphan care, did she continue talking with me. I shared that I always knew if I had a choice, I would one day adopt.
From the age of seven, Anna felt a burden to adopt children and own Golden Retrievers, after watching the popular 80s sitcom Punky Brewster. Throughout her 20s and much of her 30s, whenever adoption came up in conversation with men she dated, it was usually a deal breaker. The men she dated would only consider adoption if they had exhausted all efforts of trying to have their own. Anna found it hard to reconcile having to forgo her God given call to adopt, in order to marry. In time, she knew my desire to adopt was genuine.
From the start of our friendship, we knew adoption was a desire God had given both of us. Anna was an honest friend, transparent about spiritual growth. I never had a close Christian friend, so having one who would speak truth and confront me on my selfishness or lack of love towards others was refreshing and challenging. As you can see from our pictures, Anna is beautiful and looks extremely young for her age. Beyond her physical attractiveness, she is also fun loving and has the rare gift of being a friend to strangers. Which led her to be extremely guarded in boundaries with single men. Knowing my age and my attraction to men, she felt comfortable being herself around me. I always tell people, if it weren’t for our age difference and my same sex attraction, I would have never gotten the chance to be her friend.
After two years of friendship, God started to change my heart towards marriage and my feelings for Anna. After six months of dating, I asked her to be my wife. We knew adoption was a desire for both of us even as singles. After a year of marriage, we decided God was calling us to move forward with our adoption process. Our life is but a vapor. We want our lives to be spent in pursuit of caring for the fatherless.
If God is leading you to participate in His adoption story through our family, we have been given a generous matching grant of $4000 USD! Every dollar that is donated to our adoption up to $4000 will be matched by generous donors! The grant and donations collected will be used for legal and documentation fees, international airfare and travel expenses or us and our child/children and post adoption service fees. Please pray and seek God’s guidance in how you can be an advocate for the fatherless through orphan care.
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